How long till the HPD game becomes common knowledge?

So here's my question. Years ago, I didn't notice the HPD game-playing. I was pretty much putty in her hands. Now that I'm older, I see it very clearly. I have my moments of weakness still but overall, I get it.

But HPDs are so skilled at the game. My question is: how long before others in her circle catch on to the bullsh*t? And how would I be able to tell which people "get it" and which people don't?

Also, I've been dx (not professionally, but with one of those online tests) with high AvPD but with moderate HPD also. Curious as to what happens when M/F HPDs clash?

Maybe never.

Take NPD types as an example. Some of which are incredibly successful because of their disorder. If they are wealthy there will always be people who want a share of the wealth, so really no reason to discourage it.

The same with HPD. If the asset there is sexuality, flirting, etc., again there will always be people who want that and so encourage it.

Really neither coping mechanism is that harmful except for those who become emotionally involved.

Now consider another extreme, the psychopathic killer. We might say we wish it would stop, but that same personality type could end up being the best soldier, and as long as humans go on having wars there is a place for them, even encouraged in some contexts.

On a more common scale, AsPD types will always thrive because there are others who want the benefits of being with someone who is aggressive (not that they want to be hurt themselves, but as protectors and go-getters AsPD types offer benefits).

There is no particular justice in any of it, but as individuals we can make choices about who/what we value.

p.s. while the Sopranos is just a TV show, what it brilliantly points out is the sociopath's family and friends know what he does, who he is, but none of them wants it to stop because they are benefiting. Just a show but an important life lesson. Likewise HPD types are encouraged for their behavior by most and us when we were benefiting, so it's not a big surprise that it goes on.