Bipolar ex fiancee is now back in my life. Would this be a g

A year ago things between us were wonderful, we were happily engaged and at that point I didnt know she was bipolar but did know she had serious mood swings where you didnt know where she was going to be one minute to the next.

A lot of manipulation/mind games took place after she had a SERIOUS episode and totally flipped out on me when I did something very trivial. I did everything I could to apologise and ask for forgiveness,this led to her being very distant with me making out one minute that we were over for good and then making hints that we were together (see mind games)

Anyways, I totally love this Girl, and as weeks went on so did the turmoil and then towards the end of the year I put my foot into it and got very upset which saw her nearly losing her job, after a lot of eating humble pie she decided to not end our Friendship and remain as Friends and became a lot nicer towards me. A few weeks later I called her (she wasn't having a good day) and then emailed me telling me to NEVER call her again.

I was very distraught over this, a week later she told me to never contact her again- it was hard to hear this but I respected her and didn't email her - then MONTHS later (a week or so ago) she emails me out of the blue and wanted to chat, we did talk for quite a considerable time and she seemed very perky and it was like all my Wishes (that of us even talking/being Friends again) had come true.

Its no longer a problem with me emailing her, Phoning her and shes since unblocked me on social media.

Am I setting up myself to get hurt again by her? Should I not question why shes back in my life? Most p- well practically everyone I know (including those who've seen just how depressed/distraught/upset I've been by many of this Girls actions/cruel words has said the same hting in regards to her "RUN!"

From what I've heard, bipolar people tend to be destructive in relationships(?) And can totally forget about those they've known. If this is true why is she back on very good terms with me?

Is it possible that we may be how we once were? A fully Loving couple, very much in Love <3

Ethan1115 wrote:From what I've heard, bipolar people tend to be destructive in relationships(?) And can totally forget about those they've known. If this is true why is she back on very good terms with me?

Is it possible that we may be how we once were? A fully Loving couple, very much in Love <3

I'm bipolar (as is my boyfriend), so I'll tell you what I know. It's not being destructive on purpose, it's the mood change that causes the action. Now, that doesn't excuse it, as you can still control yourself, but it takes a lot of self awareness and strength, and that takes time. I've never heard about the forgetting part...but I can't say I've ever had that happen. She's back on good terms with you because her mood changed back. That's what would make sense to me anyways.

Now, I need to ask you this question. Is she willing to get help and start to recover? If the answer is yes, and if you truly love her, then I would say stick by her side, so long as you aren't going to lose your own mental health. However, if she isn't willing to, and it's just going to keep causing pain on your end, then I say you should probably leave. I don't like that solution, but it's not fair to you if she isn't willing to try to avoid it.

Hi. We now have a new forum for Significant Others, so I''l move your thread there and leave a shadow thread here so you can find your post.