Help with Abuser Alter?

by **tomboy24** » Sun Dec 09, 2012 10:06 pm

I never said you were his problem, but you are an issue based on this post and it's topic, and you can become a problem very quickly if you stay with your ways that obviously aren't working.

I never said you have to talk to him that much. But in order for sh*t to work, there are times when communication is needed. That's all I'm saying- communicate when it's appropriate and when it would help you and him to work together easier/better. A typical watcher or a scout still has to communicate with those he's watching out for/scouting for. Again, I'm not saying you have to talk a lot, or suddenly become a non-stop babbler or something. All I'm saying is to communicate when it would make things easier or make him be able to understand you/what you're getting at a bit better. It'd help sh*t out I bet.

No, you're not supposed to give some emotional speech. I don't expect that from you, and I never meant to sound like I did. And I never said you were weak, if you were, you wouldn't have made it this far. But if you refuse to adapt and change, even in the sense of giving it a try, then you can (and most do) become weak. No matter how strong you are, if you blind yourself to realizing truths about situations, then you will become weak. And I never said you were a coward, only asked if you were one because you didn't seem willing to even give anything a try. Usually, those who are not cowards are unafraid of doing/trying anything. I also never said you hide under a facade to appear tough and uncaring. But clearly, you're not completely uncaring, otherwise you wouldn't give two sh*ts about the host, and you wouldn't try to protect him or make him "do what's best" or anything like that. All I've said about being tough is that you can be tough and a good leader at the same time. You don't have to be an unchangeable, impossible-to-work-with, dictator to be "tough". (Not saying you are one, just saying you don't have to act like one or become one).

The focus isn't about you talking more. It's not about you showing more emotions. It's not about you hiding under any facade (though it isn't a facade, I'm not stupid). It's not about you acting weak or acting strong. The focus is about things you can do and think about in terms of resolving this "help with abuser alter" issue, making sh*t better for both you and your host, and how you can avoid the inevitable fall of your "rule"/"leadership" by being a protector and leader that doesn't upset the host enough to cause issues. All I am trying to do is assist you in seeing that it's a possible accomplishment and how to avoid making the same mistakes I've made. If you're done with this conversation, all you have to do is say so. All I was trying to do was help to the best of my abilities since the title of this post is "help with abuser alter?", and I'm able to provide insight/wisdom to this topic since I was/still can be an abusive alter myself.

Perhaps at this point in time we are not as alike as we would've been when I went by the name "Kataki". But that does not mean I understand you or this issue any less.

-KAT

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