what should i do?

Hi, i need some advice on what to do.
i have been trying with the help of the other alters to help Nissa get used to the time we live in as she says she isnt from this time she constantly talks of hunting with her farther in the woods.
she has asked extensive questions about tv's, cars ect she fears laoud industrial sounds and machanical movement.

The most reasent thing to consern me is that after a bad black out i woke to find myself in a tree quite high up at least 15-20 feet up this was quite a shock to come round to understandably, it turns out that when i blacked out Nissa was left in controle (now i need to point out that this black out took place next to a plot development where flats are being built across from a forest) the sounds of the development sent her running for a place she felt safe, being in the trees. my bigest problem with this is i cant climb well infact i tend to fall out of trees ect and this isnt the first time this has happened i've tried to ask her not to do that if the gets scared but its a fear responce and she cant stop herself so what can i do?

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We have two alters who seem out of time.... one accused me of being a sorceress because of electricity and got ecstatic finding out about markers (vs charcoal to draw). The other is startled by cars/etc like you mentioned. One thing we do is look at things in a controlled environment. Admiring the smoothness of my car, the color, the seats. Sitting inside it. Nothing more. A couple days to digest...and then we sit in the car and turn it on. Nothing more. Exposing them to those things that frighten takes time and should be done in little doses and not after a fright....but introduced with purpose...I talk about how fortunate we are to live where we have lights to make streets safe, etc.

Another important aspect though is why the outdoors is safe to her? I don't want to trigger you or anyone else...but there are gentle questions about that you could ask...or, if you don't want to look at memories/fear....you may just help her to understand that here she is safe...now she is safe... And you don't have to figure out the hunting thing...just acknowledge how important it is to her. Sounds like she felt very safe when she was hunting with her father. it sounds like she enjoyed that.

*Trigger-alter/host relationship?** You see...if she is a part of you when you were younger...and you watched - for example "Little House on the Prairie" which was a wholesome tv show with a functional loving family where they were pioneers and the father was so wonderful and loving to his daughter...you (she at that time) may have grabbed onto that and made that her reality....where the dad is home...and he's good and protective...the way they should be.

As far as the tree thing, I'm not sure her understanding of who she is (how the alter thing works) but you should have an agreement that for safety reasons, she cannot climb trees/other things because in the event of an unplanned switch, the body could fall out of the tree and that's not good... so , make a plan, if she is frightened, where should she go? How can she stay safe until things calm down? Is there something on the ground she is worried about? Can you show her that that thing is not a problem now? Teach her some techniques maybe you know about what to do when afraid. can she count to 10 and breathe deeply while she does? Focus her breath in her belly? rub a stone in her pocket? Something other than climb....

Hope that helps...and wasn't too analytical...