Therapist refuses to learn about DID **TW**

Hey there. We're so sorry to hear about this.. this horrible, horrible person! I agree with Wolf/Owl, and Mae is backing Kat 100%. Kick that lady to the curb, and fight to get what you deserve! We are also looking for a good therapist, and have our first session soon, and in no way is any of that behavior tolerable.. Oh my gooses.. I just can't even imagine.. Hugs!

Hi B (it is B isn't it?)..thank you for your kind words. This place is nice and I don't feel like so much of an alien! I hope you have some luck in finding a therapist. It's so hard. But I do believe that there are good therapists out there and hope your first session goes well. BTW I love your expression 'oh my gooses' ! I've never heard that before and think I am going to have to adopt it
Kind regards,
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Many psychiatrists, even some DID experts, don't believe that DID exists.

So you can eather stay by that therapist and show how the therapist can help you in some other way, or you move on to some other therapist who belives in DID.

Sorry you're going through this 1+????

Our very first T (who recognized that there was switching going on because after a switch she would ask what happened and we, mostly unaware of each other, would never have a clue) refused to acknowledge or learn about DID. Ultimately, we left her and it was a great decision.

Now, roughly ten years later, we have a T who does believe in and acknowledge the existence of DID. It makes SO MUCH DIFFERENCE.

You deserve someone who's going to respect you and your others. Drop this lady.

Also, something that's been helpful to us, is the Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook by Deborah Haddock. It gives some pretty good ideas on things to look for in a T, or things to look out for. It might be useful.

Good luck to you!

Hi Jasper, thanks for your reply. That's very true. The part of me that wrote this post gets confused by people's behaviour easily and has been staying with the therapist for the areas she has been a help with but this is no longer enough for the rest of us. We are planning to leave asap. I am well aware many psychiatrists don't believe in DID (I had a very bad experience with one the other week) though psychiatrists traditionally deal with what they believe to be organic mental illness and have been notoriously reluctant to address the idea that trauma is at the route of many psychiatric 'presentations'. Luckily there are now a growing body who do. I would argue that those experts in DID who do not believe in it are not, therefore, experts in it or perhaps you meant that they present themselves as 'experts' but actually have another agender. My interest is not whether DID can be proven in a laboratory or an MRI scanner - this imo is a legacy of psychiatry's attempt to reduce all human experience to biology. Where the problem lies for me is in the denying of another's emotional reality - if anything gets me going that's it . DID is first and foremost an emotional reality and if scientists find physiological 'evidence' along the way (which they have) then fine but it doesn't change the experience or the needs of those experiencing it. That's not to trash the psychiactric profession however as I have also seen a very lovely psychiatrist who, although didn't pick up on the dissociation, was a genuinely caring person. Sorry, am probably wandering off topic...I have a tendency to do so when psychiatry and DID is raised! ....anyway, many thanks again.
Hi LittleRedDogToo, thanks for you response and I like your name . It's good to know that a therapist who believes will make a difference and they are out there! Hey, I think I have that book! I'll have to dig it out - thanks for reminding me I think that's the thing that bugs me -all that info and progress and understanding out there and still such ignorance. Ah well, you can't change others only yourselves
Kind Regards,
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