SO's guilt?

I just need to get something off my chest so please bear with me.

As most of you know, I'm the SO to a wonderful woman with DID. She always listen to her when she needs to talk. It's not always easy to hear some of her memories, but I would feel worse if I didn't feel like I was helping her. And I know she'll probably read this so I can't stress the importance of that last sentence.


Anyway, sometimes when I hear the stories of her past (namely SA) I feel guilty. I feel guilty for being a man. As if the actions of the men in her life reflects on the entire gender. Logically I know it's silly. I'm not those people and I would never hurt her, but I can't help how I feel sometimes.

Does anyone else ever feel that way?

I can't connect with you directly on this, but whenever I hear about my boyfriend Mike's horrible experiences with girlfriend and exes, it makes me cringe and feel horrible, even guilty, about being a female and about the female gender in general. About how b*tchy and snakey and uncaring we can be... I feel that way with any stories I hear about horrible girlfriends or wives or exes that guys I know have had. I feel like they give the female gender a bad rep, and I wonder how these guys can pick themselves up and keep moving on, keep trying to get with a girl. I wonder how they can trust a girl after how some of them have been treated. But, then again...it's probably the same way I'm still able to trust men despite how some of them have treated me and....I guess..."others" of me....

Some people ask me how I can still trust guys and all that stuff. I say it's because I know that not all guys are like that, just like the entire human race is not like every bad or dangerous person out there. If there can be serial killers and people who wouldn't hurt a soul in the same world, then there can be good guys and bad guys, as well as good girls and bad girls. But I do understand how you feel and where you're coming from.

-- Wed Oct 10, 2012 10:48 pm --

(Off topic, but by the way, I love the quote you have at the bottom of your signature, the one to your "sweetie". It sounds like something Mike would say to me ).