Realizations

lifelongthing wrote:That is great that you know something that can help. Sleeping sounds like a good idea. I hope you sleep well soon Shay and that you feel better when you wake up

Same as that, good luck kiddo

Datenshi wrote:To give you a small list, in my system there are:
- 3 personalities with Asperger Syndrome (Jeff, Sammy and Demi)
- 1 personality with Autism (Amber)
- 1 personality with selective mutism (amber)
- 2 personalities with Borderline (Destiny and Aiko)

Every behaviour has their roots in the brain, just like all the memories and thoughts of the alters. If you'd ask if a personality can have autisme, I'd say sure, because autism is just a way of living and behaving. If you'd ask if a personality can have autism on neurological level, I'd say probably, because in theory it is most likely possible.


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Datenshi wrote:Signing or writing is a very good way of still having any social interactions wit Shay. It is important to first have things her way, make her feel comfortable with the things she now does. Once she can do it that way, try adding things (very slowly), if it becomes to much, take a step back. Like make her write some lyrics, but change one word in them. Maybe you can make it a game, that she has to write the lyrics of a song on a piece of paper, but one word needs te be different, and then you have to guess that word. (if you know the correct answer, give the wrong answer sometimes, depending on her age it might make her feel like she's winning, with most children that is motivation to try it again)

It also seems to me that she is a bit experimenting, is she a young alter? Shay has a lot of thing in common with one of my own alters, Amber, who has confirmed autistic behaviour (I like that better than to say "she has autism"), she is 8 years old.

Pen chewing can be rather annoying (Amber had the same thing), and solving that problem with an autistic child can be quite tough. I heared that putting a bit of lemon juice on the part of a pen you chew could help getting rid of the habit. When Amber found out why her pen tasted funny she looked like she wanted to kill me, after a few days she started to like lemon juice... my advice: try asking a professional, might be a lot easier

Somehow the images of her taking shelter in a hoodie or her rolling that bottle against her cheek seem very cute inside my head...

Most important, no matter how many aspects of autism she has, never treat her like an autist, treat her like the Shay she really is. Many people tend to forget there is a person behind whatever label others give to someone.

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No problem, I hope everything will be a bit better soon!

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Datenshi wrote:everything will be a bit better

Sleep well Shay and we will talk another time

I FEEL LIKE I DISCOVERED DID AGAIN!!

Rain has been doing research into Asperger's, and I identify with SO MUCH! It also helps A LOT of things make sense! I'm not self-diagnosing or anything, I always leave diagnosing up to professionals, but I'm just so happy to have found something that seems to make sense and that I have a starting point by knowing what I want to be evaluated for when I'm able to (if the official diagnosis is different, that's ok, but I'm the type of person who likes to have an idea of what it could be before I walk in there).

I was going to copy and paste the things I identify with, but it's in picture format and I couldn't figure out how to convert it, so I'll just share the picture now and list stuff later (I identify with most, if not all, of what's listed, though): http://www.help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_a58d4f6a/images/img244154ad237783e339.JPG
(If that link doesn't work, try this one, and then click on the first table/page picture: http://www.help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_a58d4f6a/wp_a58d4f6a.html).


Because of time stuff (we're supposed to be getting ready to go for a walk right now, oops), I can't go too in-depth with my post, but I just wanted to share that I think I'm finally getting on the right track with everything! It certainly feels like it, at least.

-Cassandra

I'm glad to hear you are feeling like you're on the right track and really focusing on who you all are and what you have. The best of luck going forward

Just to let you know, many of the symptoms apply to males as well. I can say that .

"Will shut down in social situations" - Yes, that is right. Maybe the biggest problem for me in the autism spectrum. It seems to be a kind of dissociation to me. Maybe a dissociative symptom in a different disorder? And probably related to my dissociative disorder as well. (I think dissociation has helped me cope with Asperger's syndrome).