Finally told our Grandma TW

by **tomboy24** » Fri Oct 05, 2012 5:18 am

**Possible Trigger Warning, mentions of family, slight conflict, defined alters, yadda yadda yadda**

So, I'm saying sorry now, 'cause usually when I post here I'm not sober (easier for me that way, lecture me all you want, I don't care). If I p*ss anyone off, or don't elaborate on too many f*#king details, it's 'cause I'm not exactly the most open person ever and I don't exactly come across as the nicest person either.

I didn't think she'd ever f*#king do it, but she did. Cassandra finally sat down with her Grandma and told her about us. She finally got it through her head that this was inevitable when she had to intercept a note from Cassie to our Grandma.

Our Grandma took it rather well, I think. She had a bit of trouble grasping the f*#king idea that we're not imaginary and can't just "go away", we're not some sort of f*#king body invaders/snatchers, we're not strangers, you know, that whole sh*t. But finally she seemed to get that we're personality splits, we're all (essentially) the same person. Though it took a bit to get to that point. (Fun times...)

She also had some trouble grasping the fact that to deny us sh*t and not give us any freedoms or anything whatsoever, is to deny Cassandra herself sh*t and to hurt herself. This was mainly my fault- our Grandma doesn't approve of the fact that I still...care...for an ex-boyfriend of Cassandra's (Darren), and wanted to see him while down here (he lives in Arizona and so does our Grandma, who we're staying with for like another week). (Her current boyfriend, Mike, approved of a break for me, so don't try to lecture me on that). Though our Grandma admitted that this was mainly 'cause of her old-fashioned thinking concerning relationships, at first it was because she didn't understand that if you tell me (or any alter) a non-negotiable "No" for something that, to us, is reasonable and that we've worked out among ourselves, we're just going to f*#king do it anyway. Well, she did understand that after I came out and said it, but then she threatened to send us back home to keep me from seeing Darren. That's when Cassandra came back out, crying, and said she just didn't understand. Then our Grandma was a little more willing to continue to listen and try to understand better.

The next morning (this happened...2 nights ago), Cassandra had Mike, her current boyfriend, call our Grandma to help explain and reassure her. That worked and helped a lot. She feels a lot better about the whole situation- including the Darren sh*t (not that I would've cared if she did or not). I think she's finally getting it that what might seem right and work for singleton people isn't always right and doesn't always work for multiples.

Last night, Cassie even got to play cards with her. Our (Great) Aunt still doesn't know, and she lives with our Grandma, so Cassie couldn't talk too much or be too loud, but she at least got to be out and our Grandma knew it was her, so that's a huge step forward and it made Cassie so happy. One good thing about her knowing now, even if she didn't like it, at least we wouldn't/don't feel so f*#king suffocated now. Seriously. It's f*#king hard to go from being used to not caring about showing ourselves and then going back into serious hiding. 'Specially now that we got Shay (I swear she gets more "special" by the f*#king day...).

Anyway, I guess they wanted to just update you guys, but I'm fronting so they made me do it. (Whatever). First family member to be told about us, and the main problem was her not approving of some of us having freedoms while others (like Cassandra) are in a relationship. Wish all your families could be like that (then again, it'd be nice if all the family MEMBERS were like that in our family. Then again, if that was true, I probably wouldn't be here).

(Oh yeah, and for those of you who knew or assumed- Mike and I WERE dating. He broke it off to let me go. I still....love Darren. He was my choice anyway, Mike never was. Mike was Cassandra's choice. I just found out he wasn't a bad guy to be "stuck" with).

-KAT

Finally told our Grandma TW