IainEtc wrote:Something happened in therapy yesterday and now everybody is upset including me. I don't know what it was but Host kind of disappeared and Host2 came out who's really really clueless but does things ok. Host2 doesn't know about us and that's the way it's supposed to be so he can keep things going. I'm worried because Host2 only lasts a little while then he gives out and I don't know what will happen after that. I hope Host comes back soon.
Evan
Hi Evan,

IainEtc wrote:We are still having trouble. There's a new host who wants to keep us under control so he can pretend we don't exist. He is kind of scary. I have to be careful.
Maybe he needs to pretend you don't exist to be able to function. I'm pretty sure Host will be back, and he'll soothe you all. Be careful, and be safe. We are here thinking about you all.
IainEtc wrote:It's hard to be a kid when the adults aren't getting along. I hope they remember you're in there and they shouldn't hurt you just because they are mad at each other. You didn't do anything wrong.
These are wise words Evan. <3
Sea
-- Fri Nov 20, 2015 6:20 pm --
ThatPerson wrote:hey everyone thanks. Alex and me read it together and he said he was gonna have a talk before we watched the movie with Tamea. He says Shea trying, but she's not super open minded and he said she has no filter, but that she's trying to understand and that he has to give her a while between talks and steps to prosess and that once she does they can move on. But she's still stuck on the different minds part like she expects us to all k ow what someone else talked to her about and that we have different opinions and viewpoints an stuff so he's trying to show her by showing her little parts of things Steve has said to help her see the differens.
And hi nowhere girl. That sounds cool, and also bad about the bad people. I hope you don't have bad dreams about them.
And hi Evan I'm sorry things are going bad right now, but they always get better in the end if you give them time and be pashunt.
Hi Daimen,
I'm glad you read it together, and yeah, well what Alex says it's really understanding. Did you get to watch the movie yet?
ThatPerson wrote:Sorry for the double post. Daimen clicked submit before k could add what I wanted to say. Tamea, my wife, is has a hard time comprehending complex subjects unless she experiences them. She is trying though. She just needs plenty of time and experience to put her thoughts into an understanding. And as Daimen said, she has no brain to mouth filter, which I've been hounding her about, but she says that its good that she's comfortable enough that she doesn't have to censore herself. I'm working on it anyway, because she needs to not say some of the things she says to others.
I've tried sending her to the forums, but it upset Steve because he feels less safe venting on the forums if she's reading his frustrations, as she will inevitably ask me why I said that and I will inevitably tell her I did not, nor do I feel that way. That will lead her to tell me that "Well part of your brain doesn't like me." I will tell her that Steve doesn't dislike her, but he has no reason to love or trust her because she hasn't made an effort before now, and that o literally have no control over his thoughts and emotions.
Someone said it was a way to connect on a deeper level, and I'll definitely bring that up.
Thank you for all of your responses and advice.
Alexandr
Hi Alexandr,
It's a good thing she's trying. Being comfortable doesn't mean that it's ok to hurt others. I believe that caring means that we watch out for what we say and how we say it not to hurt the ones we love. Still yeah somethings will take time.
About her coming here, have you thought that this place may be a safe place where you guys can just come and express and have outside support? Maybe if she comes here, you guys might feel inhibited to express freely? That's your decision to make, but wanted to mention it.
Sea