"Trigger"' question on denial

Hello, Non DID here,,,
How has your DID been accepted or been denied by your family members. How did they react at first,, thank you all.

Denial at first and denial still because they know what the DID means. I've told them some of it but what I've said and even their having witnessed significant abreactions -- uncontrollable flashbacks -- in my body seem to "evaporate" for them. Abuse was rampant on both sides of the family and for generations so I recognize denial is sort of my family's native language. One sister is in incredible denial of everything and I'm now sure she has some dissociative disorder, others probably do too, considering the abuse. The DID mother insisted that all bad things be forgotten or rewritten and two of three sisters followed that dictum because the cost of not doing so was the withdrawal of already tenuous emotional support from her.

I had hoped the mother's death would begin to weaken all the denial but it can't happen without a catalyst of some sort and I'm in no position psychologically to try to fight any of it. Also, they would have to remember their own traumas to some extent. All I can do is shield myself from their caustic denial as much as possible even though I love them all, well, the ones who weren't abusers.

My husband is totally accepting. The only other adult in my family I have disclosed to so far, an aunt, said "of course" and implied she has DID also. She hinted that she can't talk to anyone in the family about herself and said she wants to talk to me. But she hasn't done that. She also told me some ugly family history that I had not heard before.

My more immediate family of origin relies on denial.

I couldn't even dream of telling them.

My therapist, who has to come face to face with my denial and in particular the destructive denial from the mother introject, also believes my sisters cancerous cells are somewhat caused by the abusers poison and her emotional denial of anything remotely bad happening. Her denial is v strong. I dOnt know how she does it. But I know why. She wants a relationship with her parents. That's what is the social norm. Me? I'm going against it a little.

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When memories first started coming up about LY's abuse, H was suspicious and thought my brain might have just been making things up. However, after diagnosis and learning from my T and myself what DID was, he has been completely accepting.

I have told only one member of my family, my mom's sister, because she is the only one who was sufficiently close to me and healthy enough that I could ask if she noticed anything weird about my childhood. She immediately said emotional abuse/neglect and me being somewhat of an alone kid. She did express concern and my not automatically believing it, but didn't outright deny anything. I will not tell anyone else in my family at this point, most likely ever. I do share about the dissociation in general, as it is my excuse for visiting those who live at my mom's house less, since I have had time loss while driving as a result. My describing of those issues has been accepted. I think, as long as I framed it as something that was about ME (i.e. I am sensitive) and not about how bad things were, it would be OK. If I shared some of what the kids show happened, I'm sure it wouldn't be believed. Introjected denial is strong, so I'm pretty sure we were constantly invalidated as kids and the siblings carry on with this tradition even as I myself have done with my insideres.

The couple of church friends who are my support system that I have told have been 100% accepting, at least outwardly, but I always worry internally they think I am making it up. I even project that stuff on my T at times and he says he has never once thought I was lying or doubted anything the kids have shared with him.

daughter in denial, afraid of it so we no mention it. When old host tell her we no get to see our grand kids for 6 months.
2 of the grand kids are the same, no want to hear of it.
1 of the grand kids accepts it and wanted to learn more about it, she is the one who visits the most and she is very loving.