DIDs/DDNOSs befriending DIDs/DDNOSs

If you want a support group why not start one yourself? Take out an ad in the local newspaper. Or use meetup.com or facebook or the notice board at the library or whatever social networking mechanism seems to be popular where you live.

Good suggestion una+, one I have given some thought to & may have to resort to trying out. The only thing stopping me is that there are a lot of odd balls out there. I have thought also about hanging out at University libraries & psych departments and just ask around. Can't ask my T anymore he's just not wiiling so I'll have to do it w/out him. I'm not usually like this but I feel so strongly about this & my feelings will not subside.

***may be religous trigger***

I believe that I have figured out the reason that I am so adamant about this. My social axieties are so high bc I have switched to a little so many times in front of neighbors, in department stores, even at a church revival meeting a little ran down to the alter in front of a packed church to ask for forgiveness bc she was "bad". My SO & 4 friends ran after us to bring us back to our seat as this was not a scheduled alter call. I'm just sick of it & afraid to be in public but I get lonely sometimes for outside-other interaction. At least if I have a dissociative friend with whom I can interact, I wouldn't be so embarrassed to be me if I turn into a little. Anyway, feels good just to vent. Thanks for the response...

There is a support group in one of our larger cities...so it is monitored by a T during the whole thing. We haven't had a chance to investigate more....but I did just tell my son's newest alter she might find some relief by being on here..It is too much for now.

i havent known anyone ...at least knowingly who had d.i.d but during some rough times i found support in a yahoo chat room. one lady admitted to having it and i felt instantly drawn to her. this is before i found this forum. oddly enough she lived so close to me. but i think i was drawn to her because i felt she understood and without judgment either. though we never really talked much i think it was her who made me feel like searching online for a group like this. It would be hard for anyone who doesnt have these "problems" i guess u could call it to fully understand or even accept it because there arent coming from the same shoes but rather a full whole. i found this feeling often made me feel separated, so when im in a group like this... i feel more normal and understood. i think in that alone it can be therapeutic.

bourbon wrote:Offline no... that would just be a pipedream in the UK. There is a support group up north of the country whereas I'm south so... a little too far to travel perhaps I wish there was one around here, I'd at least give it a go!

B

Kinda this. We live relatively close to Bourbon (in terms of nearer than the support group is to us anyway) but it's still a pretty fair trek. There are 4 people with DID that I know of near me. One of them was kind of a friend, but they were extremely volatile and self-destructive and in the end our protectors cut us off from them. It was for the best, even though I kind of feel sad about losing a multie friend.

The other we only know online is very self destructive and volatile too.

The closest one to us, I know of only online - we've never met but they're pretty close to us.

The other, I have met & lives about 2 hours away from me - our littles have met up and been to the zoo and stuff and it was cool.

Online I would probably say I'm actually friends with about 4 systems. 2 of whom are my best friends of 5 years, but live in the states and Australia.

I'd be open to meeting DID friends, but I kind of feel like DID relationships are very similar to BPD relationships - they get way too intense too fast and end up blowing up in your face & singeing your eyebrows.

Still, I'd love to find other multiples near me - even if we only met up once, I'd love it and I would really, really love to find a support group close to us. Also, it'd be nice for our kids to have other kids to play with that are like them. I'm hoping that one day I'll find another (non-dangerous) multie in our city.

-Myka (for Blu)

A good day would come out of meeting you I reckon - mosaicmonkey. I am just far too social phobic to contemPlate it for more than a minute! I wish I wasn't so socially inept lol.

bourbon wrote:A good day would come out of meeting you I reckon - mosaicmonkey. I am just far too social phobic to contemPlate it for more than a minute! I wish I wasn't so socially inept lol.

It's ok, I'm pretty people-phobic/hating too. Generally someone else is out until I feel comfortable enough to say hey. Last time we'd pretty much finished the zoo before I even came out to say hey! haha Besides, it's nice knowing you guys are nearby anyway without the whole social majigger

mosaicmonkey wrote:Besides, it's nice knowing you guys are nearby anyway without the whole social majigger

Haha that it is. I usually automatically switch or blend with Bourbonny when its a case of meeting with people. She's so... joyful, sociable, on fire... I'm just an empty shell in social events in comparison!! B

bourbon wrote:A good day would come out of meeting you I reckon - mosaicmonkey. I am just far too social phobic to contemPlate it for more than a minute! I wish I wasn't so socially inept lol.

Bourbon. I think you sell yourself short. You are GREAT online, you could be a good friend to anyone.

Anyone live in MO or AK ...

Thank you something that I definitely needed to hear as of late! When I was housebound the online community was all I had for a year or so - I'm very comfortable 'socialising' online and I think I'd have gone mad quite a few times in my life if it wasn't for the existence of the Internet. Thanks again - how much do I owe you B