Do you prefer to refer to yourself in singular or plural?

For multiples: When you're talking about yourself, do you prefer to use "we" and "us," or "I" and "me?"

Slayde
All three.It kind of depends on what we are talking about or what we are doing.I can be used by all, we/us when speaking as a group. This maybe be different for those who are not co-conscience as we are.
Us

It really depends on who wants to answer. It's a natural automatic response to whatever is used. Second guessing then follows sometimes. LOL

Depends.

If in a conversation with someone, it depends who they are. Although, I find it amusing sometimes when I am conversing with my parents and I say "we" instead of "I" and they obviously assume I'm referring to me and my partner or something, when I'm really not!

It also depends on the context of what is being said. Sometimes it is an "I" statement because it is an "I" feeling, thought or idea. Sometimes it is a "we" statement because well yeah you guessed it.

Mostly "we" feels accurate whereas "I" often doesn't. The only reason I refer to "I" if it's just my own thoughts or experience about something, as opposed to the thoughts of several of us. Of course, when I'm talking to someone who doesn't or shouldn't know about my DID, it's always "I" for obvious reasons.

For me it depends on which alter. I have a couple of them who don't want to be known as "me" and they make "I" statements about themselves and "her" statements about me. Sometimes, we use we if it applies to more of us than one.

It depends. I use singular if it's directly related to just me. If I'm talking about general stuff that's not solely me/mine then I use we. I use we a lot actually.

I have the same issue as Bourbon tho, some people who don't know about us being multiple assume when I say we I mean myself and my partner.

it depends for me. i keep it well hiden as only two people know about this minus mental health. so i try to use first party but sometimes i slip and id get an awkward look from somebody.. ex. how are you doing..we are good..<whos we? lol oh i mean im good. though some of my alters i know arent exactly happy about talking in first person as they dont see us as a whole but different ..they do it anyways.

I have been curious about this as well. I voted that it depends for "us". If its a stressful situation, it becomes "we"..If the situation progresses, my head gets loud. If it progresses further, I lose time. Sort of makes sense I suppose.

Seems like it happens during conversations when I'm not fully aware that I'm talking. I got caught this week saying "we were talking with Natalie (a co-worker) and..."

It's just plain old embarrassing! I sometimes hate myself for saying "we".

Johnny-Jack wrote:Mostly "we" feels accurate whereas "I" often doesn't. The only reason I refer to "I" if it's just my own thoughts or experience about something, as opposed to the thoughts of several of us. Of course, when I'm talking to someone who doesn't or shouldn't know about my DID, it's always "I" for obvious reasons.

Um, yeah, that was nearly exactly what I was going to say. If I am talking to someone who doesn't know about my DID or doesn't know much about it, I generally only use "we" as a slip-up. If I am talking to T or on forums or others who "get" the whole multiple thing (actually, I don't think anyone other than my T in real life is someone I'm comfortable doing that with purposefully), "I" means I am talking about just me, the host or whatever. "We" means some or all of us as a collective. I caught myself using "we" with my pastor (who knows) the other day and corrected myself and expressed embarrassment, but it didn't bother him at all. Other parts will say the same, at least as much as they are aware of others and their thoughts/feelings. If they say "I" to T, they just mean themselves. If they say "we" to him, they mean the group or whichever few they had previously been referring to.

I also sometimes get the thing where I say we accidentally with others who aren't used to it and I think they assume me and H.

I have a vague memory of having to make the joke that I was using "the royal we" a lot in maybe middle and high school to explain why I said "we" when I just meant "I." I didn't know anything about dissociation or DID/MPD at the time. I just said "we" by instinct and then got embarrassed when it was pointed out, I think. It's really vague, so maybe I'm just making that up.