Co-hosted?

Is it possible for more than 2 to be present or alert to what's happening even if they aren't doing anything? Sometimes they will know something that happened and I didn't feel them present at the time. I feel like I'm aware most of the time but I can lose hours at a time, but mostly if I'm really upset about something and they take over because they can handle it better I guess. Most of the time Nick and I are together. And is it possible for me to be present on the outside but feel two of them arguing inside when I'm not involved? I have only acknowledged my diagnosis recently because I've been in denial for a really long time and I think I'm still trying to debunk the diagnosis. I always thought I was just really imaginative but I'm more open to learning about it so I can get well. Everyone's advice here so far has been very helpful and I appreciate it.

tooner wrote:Is it possible for more than 2 to be present or alert to what's happening even if they aren't doing anything? Sometimes they will know something that happened and I didn't feel them present at the time. I feel like I'm aware most of the time but I can lose hours at a time, but mostly if I'm really upset about something and they take over because they can handle it better I guess. Most of the time Nick and I are together. And is it possible for me to be present on the outside but feel two of them arguing inside when I'm not involved? I have only acknowledged my diagnosis recently because I've been in denial for a really long time and I think I'm still trying to debunk the diagnosis. I always thought I was just really imaginative but I'm more open to learning about it so I can get well. Everyone's advice here so far has been very helpful and I appreciate it.

Yes it is possible for 2 or more to be present and not doing anything. It's co-consciousness. I experience this a lot, especially in tense situations in case they might need to step in. Yes it is possible to hear arguments inside even if you're not involved in the argument. In some systems, if alters are aware of one another they can interact inside and have conversations.

Okay. Thank you. I hope my questions aren't too stupid.

tooner wrote:Okay. Thank you. I hope my questions aren't too stupid.

Your questions aren't stupid at all.

Yep, what you're experiencing is co-consciousness or blending of alters. It can be a pain in the butt. But usually there are tools out there for maintaining who's there and who isn't. It just takes time to find them
- Moana

Thanks, I really appreciate it. Do you get headaches a lot from this? I get really bad headaches when it feels like more than just one or two of us are active.

I am thinking about letting one of my closest friends know about all of this and it's really scary because what if she is judgmental or doesn't believe me and thinks I'm a liar? I guess I get really paranoid because I seem to attract passive aggressive manipulative people (not her, but in general) and I sometimes don't believe the things they tell us because they are so manipulative and gamey and attention seeking. I just wish I had somebody in real life that I could talk to besides my therapist because she can only see me for 50-60 minutes per week.

tooner wrote:Thanks, I really appreciate it. Do you get headaches a lot from this? I get really bad headaches when it feels like more than just one or two of us are active.

I am thinking about letting one of my closest friends know about all of this and it's really scary because what if she is judgmental or doesn't believe me and thinks I'm a liar? I guess I get really paranoid because I seem to attract passive aggressive manipulative people (not her, but in general) and I sometimes don't believe the things they tell us because they are so manipulative and gamey and attention seeking. I just wish I had somebody in real life that I could talk to besides my therapist because she can only see me for 50-60 minutes per week.

Headaches, YES. We call them switchy aches, don't know what you call them around here. Having more than one alter out hurts physically. Especially when it comes to a co-driving state, when the multiple alters can all somehow control the body to their own whim. It is hella confusing!
- Lilu

Yes, we get headaches sometimes as well when co conscious or switching.

As for telling your friend, only do it if you really feel sure she won't turn on you.

We haven't gotten headaches for a couple years but used to whenever there was a struggle about who was going to be out.

My adopted son Nic starts to get headaches if there are several switches in a short period of time. This can be from multiple alters fronting within a couple minutes or from any two alters switching back and forth.

It's very weird to read myself in this thread referring to John (me) three years before we knew there was a John.

We can't really tell if someone was near the front after the fact because recent event memory seems accessible to everyone.

Johnny-Jack wrote:It's very weird to read myself in this thread referring to John (me) three years before we knew there was a John.

<Snort!>

Season's greetings from us to yous.