The body

The body is very weak. The body is very anxious. She can't ever hold still and obessess over things. She is really sick. We need to help her, but we don't know where to start. She has nothing to do that makes her happy, that she likes doing, or any type of hobby or interest. She's just an emotional train wreck. Is there anything we can do to help her?

Even if you all dont want to , try to eat, or rest. Take a rest and let the body rest.

Also, do you have a therapist?

My answer would be similar to the answer from tinypieces.

Just focus on the basics to start with. Try to do them even if you don't feel like it, as it will help.

Eat. Regularly- it's important.

Sleep. At normal night times plus whenever else the body is feeling tired. If it's hard to sleep, at least try to rest with your eyes closed.

If you've got the first two happening, I'd add Shower/Bathe.

Just take it step at a time focusing on the basics. If that's all that can be managed for the moment, that is fine, it's important just to try and make those things stable enough to begin with...

Trigger Warning
What has really helped us, is attending to our body, as part of who we are. After all it is my container, my temple so to speak. So i initially started out spending time with my body, talking to it and saying" i am sorry for all the things that have been done to you, both by others and myself. I am sorry about all the negative things that have been spoken over you, by others and myself. I love you, and i want to take care of you." Etc... Whatever feels real and comfortable to you. I am trying to develop the habit of speaking to my body on a more regular basis.
Applying lotion to it, or taking bubble baths with a candle lite, incense burning, listening to music that moves me and letting my body have its way with it, dancing.
I had gained like 35-40 pounds, when i went through my divorce, but i have a part of me, Sissy who likes to exercise so we, like others have mentioned to you, have tried to start eating better and encouraging Sissy to come out and exercise. Also i have something that i am doing the first part of May, that i am encouraged to look better for. I think setting small goals, even for bodily improvement for us r helpful, motivating.
We also have a personal relationship with Jesus, so we have broken trauma off of, and out of our body, "in Jesus name', commanding it to leave. I realize that this is not what everyone believes, but even if it's not, you can still speak to your body releasing trauma from it. Only if you feel so moved to do that.
I believe there is a body consciousness. If you speak to your body and ask it what it needs. I'm not saying your body will speak to you, but through someone in you, you will start getting answers. I believe some in my system are much more in touch with our body than others.
I also thank my body for everything i get done through it. I am no where close to where i want to be in this process, but i have felt remarkable differences since we have at least started it.
Don't forget that story of the turtle and the rabbit, was it? The turtle won the race cause he/she just kept on taking small consistant steps toward the goal. Peace

Guys, I don't remember writing any of this.

I do have a therapist that now I am going to see regularly.

I'm kind of creeped out because I don't remember writing this, and my fiance is the only one who knows my username and password and I'm sure he wouldn't sabatoge my sanitity. So, I have to assume I wrote this.

I had the same experience several months ago. I was looking at things i had written, and something popped up from the year before. At first i didn't remember writting it, because someone else in me had. And i thought my soon to be ex-husband was trying to blow my mind out. But then a couple of days later i remembered, when we had used to b on this forum, when we first stated having memories and dissociated parts showing up. And we had written it then. What a feeling!

w4rp3dh4l0 wrote:Guys, I don't remember writing any of this.

I do have a therapist that now I am going to see regularly.

I'm kind of creeped out because I don't remember writing this, and my fiance is the only one who knows my username and password and I'm sure he wouldn't sabatoge my sanitity. So, I have to assume I wrote this.

I'm an alter so I'd like to advocate for trying to communicate with this alter. He or she does sound very concerned for you and is trying to get help for you. He or she seems to be a real ally. This alter refers to a we, an us, so there are other parts of you that are concerned as well. This is a good thing!

You could try talking aloud to this alter, ask the alter's name aloud, then wait and listen for a response. I hope you don't have a tendency to avoid direct communication with them. You can ask them not to share anything that would upset you, just say you'd like to know who's there. Some of your alters are naturally going to be your greatest protectors and allies.

I was very frustrated for a long period of time when John felt uncomfortable talking to me. It hurt my feelings, frankly, and it postponed our full alliance, I can tell you that.

She's telling me her name is Joan but she's not telling me anything other than that. She says I'm not ready yet. She told me not to worry, she would take care of me. She seemed really nice.

She sounds terrific! Welcome, Joan. We hope you feel comfortable visiting and posting here. I know it's not our place, but you may not hear often enough "thanks for taking care of your host" -- I assume she's your host -- so I'll say it anyway. I imagine she's in very good hands. Who knows her better than you?

I have developed greater respect for our host John. I got so tired of his tension, tiredness, procrastination and suicidal thoughts that I began to take over for him at work sometimes. What I discovered was that while I have skills he doesn't have, the reverse is also true, and lastly...hosting is a lot more difficult than I realized!

w4rp3dh4l0 wrote:Guys, I don't remember writing any of this.

I do have a therapist that now I am going to see regularly.

I'm kind of creeped out because I don't remember writing this, and my fiance is the only one who knows my username and password and I'm sure he wouldn't sabatoge my sanitity. So, I have to assume I wrote this.

Lol. I know the feeling! That is how I feel almost all of the time when I read back what has been written on my account. Try not to stress, it's a good thing if parts of you are reaching out here to get help.

I'd like to say hello to Joan and welcome. I think it is fantastic that you are writing here to get help Joan. I'd encourage you to do that as much as you like.

(Maybe you could ask how old Joan is as another introductory question to help get communication going?)