Alters and times of the day

Okay..last new topic for me tonight! Do any of your alters have a "routine" so to speak, of what time they come out during the day/night? We seem to have a little who comes out in the evening. Maybe it has something to do with being stuck with working all day long (I can relate!). But he turns "dormant" or practically unable to speak before bedtime.

Gentler alters seem to be around in the morning, happier ones, before the triggers of he day start.

Does this sound familiar to anyone?

Yes. I don't know why they come out at these times for the most part.

Sneaker almost always comes out at bedtime and begs my roommate to tuck her in. (According to her, my roommate is a "good-tucker-inner.") I would guess Sneaker comes out because being tucked in makes her extremely happy.

Snow comes out after I go to sleep sometimes and does things around the apartment. I would guess Snow just feels the need to get certain things done.

C has a tendency to come out in the evenings after 7 o'clock. I have no idea why this happens.

Having said this, they do come out at other times and sometimes they miss these time slots. These are just things I've noticed in particular for these alters.

Lol, good tucker-inner, I love it! That's so adorable. I'm relieved to hear we aren't the only ones like this. And yes, they do come out and other times, and sometimes miss their slots, but for the most part they're pretty reliable!

Adam, the youngest, always comes out to go to sleep now. It's a trend I started a few months ago (eternal thanks for suggesting it, Tylas ). If I myself try to sleep after lights out and haven't turned over the body to him, I feel panicky all over, I know it's him, and I really have no choice but to give in. He likes it because it's routine, it's his time, and it's comforting and feels safe to snuggle us to sleep. Even Little John, who used to take turns with him at "beddy-bye time" now has to share the body with Adam at best. It's possible littles naturally feel at home getting ready for or going to bed. It's the day winding down and outside the prime time when adult alters most want to be in the body (except when motivated by erotic impulses). I've had rare memories of my body doing Adam-like things in bed (humming, baby grunts as the body moves, hands/arms moving jerkily) in years past, long before I opened Pandora's box to my DID. I didn't know what was happening, it felt quite weird but purposeful, so I let it happen anyway. I'm sure now it was him.

I've found that since the littles started taking over at sleep, going to sleep and sleeping the night through is no longer a problem. I'm just not able to focus the mind on neverending ruminations about what went wrong at the job or things I haven't done. Used to be a terrible problem! Littles in the body in a safe bed serves to relax the body like nothing else. There's a reason for the phrase "sleeps like a baby." If you have some littles and you're not sleeping well, I highly recommend it!

Jack virtually always does the walking to/from work because he likes it and it assures him daily uninterrupted "talk time," though he's more and more tried to coax others out to take his place.

***Possible Trigger***

In our case, my BF says that bed was a "safe place", or that bed time was safe time because he could get away from the fighting going on in the family. It was his private place. At times I have slept in a different bed because sometimes he needs to be alone and I respect this. Then he misses me and wants me to come back. I've made it clear to always let me know if he's uncomfortable, that it's all perfect okay.

After a certain hour a night, he can't seem to talk to anybody, he just shuts down.

After a certain hour a night, he can't seem to talk to anybody, he just shuts down.

Does it seem like this is an alter? It sounds perplexxing. Or just Weltschmertz (world weariness). I guess my roommate tends to do this but he's on the quiet side anyway.

I imagine it IS an alter; at the beginning I did think it was very odd. But he just said it's how he is. That could be. I don't make an issue out of it. But I know he's adept at hiding these things. Even switching. He walks right out of the room. No one would ever suspect a thing if they didn't know.