Therapist update

Hi to All
I saw my new Therapist yesterday. I general came away with zero feelings good or bad. Basically a greet and meet. We told him straight out from the get go to figure out if he was up to the task at hand. Gave him a brief outline of the trauma and issues and told him we were not there to validate ourselves with him he could listen and get with the program are send us down the road. I told him not to try and baffle us with bull $#%^ that it would not work and had no problems on calling him on it if he tried. He was told a little about the others and he got a strange look on his face when I told him that they could see him and were hearing everything he said. We all wanted so badly to start laughing when he made his face. It was funny!
Clair and Tommy are still afraid and do not trust him just because he is a male which I told him. Thomas Lee has not said much but had the look of, Oh great one more asshole, but I think he is willing to give him a chance.
He told us he has never has had a patient come in with such deep insight to what is going on with themselves. I told him after 48 years one would think that you could figure things out at least to some degree. He told me most times people just want him to fix them like it's magic or something. We told him there is no "fixing", that we were there to get our system up and working right again. Stop the chaos, depression, etc.
He told Us he like me and wants to work with us. He did say he was thinking that maybe some medications would be needed. We told him that we were not against it but wanted to test the waters, at least belly button deep, with him before that would take place.
We are going long so we will end it here. We will see him it two weeks and just maybe every week after that.We will see!
Us
Watcheroflights

Sounds good. Your approach may be something I adopt when I start my therapy in december?

Bourbon

watcheroflights wrote: He was told a little about the others and he got a strange look on his face when I told him that they could see him and were hearing everything he said. We all wanted so badly to start laughing when he made his face. It was funny!

Watcheroflights

Wicki does that! She bursts out in the most Wicked laugh, so I know what you mean by you wanted to laugh when someone gets us wrong.

I have concern however. Why did he not know that those inside could hear?

Good for You All. Balls to the wall. I like that.

watcheroflights wrote:He was told a little about the others and he got a strange look on his face when I told him that they could see him and were hearing everything he said.

A strange look? How exciting. Say more! Did he look amused? Or incredulous? Or feeling exposed, naked in front of an audience? Or was it a kinky voyeur/exhibitionist kind of feeling? Or knowing?

I knew my current therapist had experience with DID, and she knew I knew what was going on with me, but even so the first time she addressed my system collectively I felt incredibly exposed.

Bourbon
Damn right. You are the captain and the master of your vessel. Sadly far too often mental health professional want to hear what they think and refuse to listen to what the patient is saying. If you are being honest, forthright and not playing games than you know better to what is going on with you than they do. As I said before they are a guide at best. No longer are you the helpless victim you are now the survivor and have right to say they are way off base. I believe it’s our right to be bold and assert our rights as patients to not have to take crap from the professionals because they refuse to listen to us. They are not playing with their life’s they are playing with ours. If they screw up then we suffer the outcomes of their poor insight and judgments. I believe sometimes they forget this.
tylas
Cannot say why he got a strange face but it was funny. He did state this is his first time dealing with issues like mine. The good side is he says he wants to help and for now I will take him at his word.
Thomas
Watcheroflights

-- Wed Oct 12, 2011 11:23 pm --

Una
You made me laugh so hard I almost wet myself.
I guess the answer to your queston is he may have felt exposed, naked in front of an audience.
Now that was funny!
Thomas
Watcheroflight

Bourbon, Tylas and Una
I am very fragile right now. A trip and a little push could very well send me over the deep end. So I am not very trusting with any mental health professionals right now. I am very afraid of ending up in a mental institution and getting the accommodations of the rubber room and a straight jacket. I sure the hell am frightened in doing the medication shuffle once again, setting in a corner drooling on myself. I will not let a mental health professional help me over the edge. I can do that just fine by myself.
Thomas
Watcheroflights

Excellent attitude!

Watcheroflights, I commend you on your attitude and I hope you can maintain the stability in the near future that will keep you healthy. Of course let us know if we can help in any way.

I believe it’s our right to be bold and assert our rights as patients to not have to take crap from the professionals because they refuse to listen to us. They are not playing with their life’s they are playing with ours. If they screw up then we suffer the outcomes of their poor insight and judgments. I believe sometimes they forget this.

I believe most patients forget this too. Some of us, especially some of the most vulnerable and least experienced, don't even know all that in the first place -- yet. But those are words that I wish every newly diagnosed person on here, or anyone in the midst of suspecting what's going on, would heed. You are your greatest advocate in most cases. Sometimes, the inner chaos might be too great and the best one can do is turn over your stability to someone you trust, hopefully a professional or someone who loves you.

I do recommend that people don't try to manage it all on their own. The right professional -- a guide as you put it very well -- has training and experience with those who have faced similar challenges, and if they're good at what they do, they can be quite helpful, at the least a safe place to explore your inner world. For myself, I have yet to meet a mental health professional who comes close to doing a superb job with what I'm dealing with but some of the responsibility rests with me. Most have missed the diagnosis completely, even though most were told, "so someone with another name and personality took over my body for a few days right after I internally met the child I myself was created to replace when I was two." Not sure how you think that's inconsequential or miss that diagnosis, but it's happened several times. So I'm directing my therapy now though can't say I'm doing a stellar job yet.

Watcheroflights thank you for this thread it's been very inspiring. X