Can you fall in love with your own alter?

I'm wondering if this has happened before, and how you deal with it, especially if the alter has been at large for most of your life.

I don't know if any of this is even real. The person I'm thinking of may just be a sort of archetype, or a personality fragment, or even a state of consciousness. But every time "he" comes around, I get this strange feeling that I can only describe as "coming home." And then it's over as fast as it begun. And every time, I am convinced that getting him back is my only purpose in life. When he's gone, nothing has any meaning. When he's here, the feelings are so overpowering that the pain of all the wasted years seems like nothing at all.

"We" were split apart a long time ago because circumstances dictated it. I kept him alive in my memory and promised myself I would find him someday. Now I'm older and wondering if this is even possible. I've never had any interest in being with anyone else, because everyone just reminds me of him.

Does this ever happen to anyone else? Once I realized what was going on, I feel like I jumped the crazy shark.

Its possible to fall in love with yourself, so I imagine its also possible to fall in love with an alter. I have some feelings, although I wouldn't quite call it love, for Suzy, one of my alters. It sounds to me more like he's a part of your system that you don't want to lose.

I have heard of alters falling in love with other alters... so I would guess that yes you can.
Our therapist has been working with DID for 25+ years and has had two dozen patients that he has worked with. He says that after all this time that he has learned that DID is an anything goes sort of disorder. This is because when it comes down to it it was all made up by children in with our imaginations. Imagination is limitless and there for anything is possible! Which I find extremely comforting at terrifying at the same time.
So I would guess that yes it is possible.

With in our system there is "relations" between a few parts.... but that is a whole other story.

Don't feel weird. Every one of us multiples has a unique system and a unique way it works.

Before I was diagnosed with DID, the first alter I had I loved very much. I didn't know what she was and all I knew was that I loved her with all my heart.

Don't feel weird.

Sorry, I wanted to write you a long post, but I just can't.

oh definitely. Love, hate, friendship, lust.. every emotion that you can feel towards external people can also happen inside among any complete alter.

I love my guys, and I know they love me. But LOVE love? I don't see why not.

I just made a search and found this thread.
This week I've had weird instances while seeing my hands or looking at myself in a mirror. I feel like I'm witnessing or dragged into some sort of romantic interest between two persons other than myself. They are very short instances, but I'm not used to that at all even though I know something "has been going on" before. But I've always been just a witness and not involved (emotionally), and these new sensations makes me feel unpleasant like someone is harassing me. On top of that I've heard new comments that have started now and they bring me some disturbing flashbacks, but I'm not sure if they are based on reality or just something between the two persons that seem to have this thing together. I'm feeling sick and worn-out, reality seems different from the usual and my body hurts all the time .

Yeah, I believe you can fall in love (or at least lust) with an alter. This would not be surprising specially if the alter is an introject of an abuser whom you as a child had to depend on and/or who was sometimes kind to you. Or if not an introject, an alter who has a lot of characteristics of the same type of abuser. Or a nice introject alter of someone who cared about you but wasn't abusive. I had a weird thing happen internally that is so mortifying I can't even go into it but it's along those lines.

My two twin alters are in love with each other... So I guess it is

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I have had male alters touch our body inappropriately. At first i thought i just touching myself but it felt foreign and strange. So i understand lust. I thought i was in love with my protector alter "j" in my teen years as he was the only "person" i could depend on. We had a long "relationship " before more trauma fragmented me even more. So i can relate and even now as a married woman i find myself sharing intimate co concious moments with "j".