Check in: Hypersexuality

TheCollective wrote:I know that so many of those who have DID, have a history of sexual abuse. I show all the behaviors of infantile sexual abuse, but I remember nothing.

Many of us remember nothing, initially. I don't remember being abused in my early childhood, but only recently did I become aware that I don't remember anything in my early childhood. I do remember sexual abuse in late childhood, from perpetrators outside my family. My parents were not protective. On the contrary, they were generally unable to perceive threats or harm; this inability is seen in adults who were abused as children, yet who are not hypervigilant.

TheCollective wrote:lately, having real sex seems to trigger the one who claims the memories to be hers, when she is not known to be the most sexual alter at all, she is an innocent kid.

It sounds like your system is developing better communication, so now she is experiencing activities of the body that previously did not enter her awareness.

I do remember quite a bit of my childhood added up together, with parts that I have very good contact with. There is a lot of abuse but not really of the sexual kind, and what she's showing me seems to be rather.. expressed..
It bothers me that she is part of the more active people in here and it can get pretty rough sometimes because of things like this.

Una+ wrote:It sounds like your system is developing better communication, so now she is experiencing activities of the body that previously did not enter her awareness.

Yeah, but I dont think that a 7 year old should have to deal with this. Now, how to grow her up? .. I'm serious..


I have also experienced alters getting me into sexual trouble! due to their hypersexuality and I dont like it. It has traumatized me and my life, just to see what they are up to. The most recent thing that happened was my most sexual alter who lusted after a man like in a previous post that I read here. This was 4 years ago but it is still as if it were fresh, like it's her goal to reach that guy. She did get me to find help that way though..
I also noticed that my sexual alter will even be with my partner, even though she doesn't like him at all, does that sound familiar here?

TheCollective wrote:The most recent thing that happened was my most sexual alter who lusted after a man like in a previous post that I read here. This was 4 years ago but it is still as if it were fresh, like it's her goal to reach that guy. She did get me to find help that way though.

I would like to hear more about that, because I have a similar problem.

Well what would you like to hear? I'll just tell what happened. If it's not what you want to hear, I assume you'll tell me?
When we were in our teens, she did a lot of life.
When we moved here, it made room for another, more grownup main.
The first 6 months that we lived here, there was a man who would visit here. I should have seen it coming and should have noticed the flirting and some feelings but back then I didn't know a lot about her or about my system ( I didn't even believe I had a "system", I thought it was "inmyhead"), and was still trying to deny a lot.
So after about 6 months she got so strong that I couldn't keep her in anymore. I watched her riding us to his place (me feeling really small, pounding on the inside of our head to let me out, turn around!), I watched her staying there for 4 days and I watched some things they did. I watched my partner coming after me and begging me to come home, but there was nothing I could do at all It still bothers me a lot. From the way that this guy took advantage of our crisis, to the way she could be doing this to her own flesh and blood. To the way that my partner is just human, and thinks/thought I cheated on him. This crisis took both my partner and me at least 2 years of this life, trying to work through it.
Back then I didn't notice, but analyzing it now, I find that it was either a desperate try to get control back. She doesn't want to live here at all, and she doesn't want our partner. She does not want this life. Or maybe more complicated, she thought she had to run away from home and it was always her duty to find a man (just not the one I chose). Put that on top of her losing control of this life, and those factors combined in a rather unlucky way..
After this happened, I was convinced that it wasn't just "inmyhead". So I sought help.
It's been almost 4 years. But I believe she would do it again if she would get the chance to. I know she is still "in lust" with him (she does not love). I know she still dreams about him and if we would run into him I still switch to her. Yes I have tried at all costs to avoid this guy. That was difficult because he was at the same therapy facility where I was.
ok send..

Sophie is hypersexual. It used to be that way for Kaz sometimes, before alters appeared, however, Sophie is very much sex orientated.

TheCollective wrote:She doesn't want to live here at all, and she doesn't want our partner. She does not want this life. Or maybe more complicated, she thought she had to run away from home and it was always her duty to find a man (just not the one I chose).

What have you done to make life more gratifying for this lusty part of your personality system? Or do you operate a "winner take all" system, so whichever personality is out front gets to dictate how you live, without regard for the insiders?

For me it was a shock to discover none of my insiders (none met so far) considered themselves to be married to my husband. Fortunately, none of them disliked him either, and he has been so wonderful about everything that they are increasingly attached to him.

TheCollective wrote:he was at the same therapy facility where I was.

Does he also have DID?

Una+ wrote:What have you done to make life more gratifying for this lusty part of your personality system? Or do you operate a "winner take all" system, so whichever personality is out front gets to dictate how you live, without regard for the insiders?

What I try to do, to make life more fulfilling as a system, is to make her aware and accepting that we share a body and thus a life. Which appears to be very hard if not impossible for her. Especially accepting it. This does not make her very happy no. It can make her very unhappy, since she isn't the most stable person anyway.
This has helped in one major aspect so far, she doesn't think of herself as being the only one here anymore. In some way that is progress.
I guess I try to make a team of "winner take all"s. People who work together better will be heard and considered more. It is definitely aimed at teamwork.

Una+ wrote:Does he also have DID?

I dont know. This was a public facility. Many people with different problems come there.

under ice wrote:I was hypersexual as a kid

It was P!

Well, I suppose that it could be said that I'm the hypersexual insider. I love sex. I don't care that I'm only 8-14. I like sex a lot.

Sarah lets me do solo play and that sort of stuff, but her boyfriend is 3000 miles away. And he also doesn't believe that she has any sort of dissociative problem at all, which I can't quite understand. But apparently, I shall be allowed at least to vicariously experience that.

A friend suggested online things, but Sarah's boyfriend would view that as cheating. Rightly, I imagine, but it does suck quite a lot.

~Little Miss Margaret~

tylas wrote:Do you ever go so far as BDSM, slave/master, bondage, groups etc.. in your desires. I just always thought I was a freak! It's good to know i have a reason to be.

This whole thread just sounds like me .

Eisa wrote:A friend suggested online things, but Sarah's boyfriend would view that as cheating. Rightly, I imagine, but it does suck quite a lot.

Lol, if he doesn't think you exist, how can it be cheating?