How do I get out of her way?

yakusoku wrote:I've pretty much told him everything except exactly what she wants to say and exactly what I assume he'll say back, which is that he likes her and cares for her, but can't love her, can't hug her, etc. Ouch!

Well, that wasn't so bad to say, was it? Now that you have said it here, perhaps it will be easier to say to him directly. I think saying it to say it to him will be good for you.

yakusoku wrote:I don't know if I actually have CSA.

You have a lot of company here. Not knowing is part of DID. I don't know either, but like you I have been experiencing very unpleasant somatic flashbacks and other nastiness. All this started before any therapy, and before the thought of CSA ever crossed my mind, so I know it is not iatrogenic.

Una+ wrote:

yakusoku wrote:I've pretty much told him everything except exactly what she wants to say and exactly what I assume he'll say back, which is that he likes her and cares for her, but can't love her, can't hug her, etc. Ouch!

Well, that wasn't so bad to say, was it? Now that you have said it here, perhaps it will be easier to say to him directly. I think saying it to say it to him will be good for you.

I agree!!!!


I also just want to say that nobody should have to put up with abuse. Not even from their spouse. Everyone has a right to be safe from abuse. Please consider seeking some assistance in order to help yourselves be safe. You deserve to be and feel safe. You deserve to live a life free from current abuse.