This situation is all very confusing and stressful, even now knowing about the DID. The overwhelming infatuation for this man was awful. I still have those feelings now and then, but I am much more able to tolerate them. It amazes me that although I had no understanding of what was going on, somehow I was able to recognize being of two minds.
The infatuation remains, and it is a problem, but no longer is it my problem, except to the extent that any problem in my system is my problem. I hope communication with this alter will improve soon to the point where I and my therapist can help the alter get over this man. The alter desperately wants to come out to him, but I am not going to let that happen until communication is established. I also want the man to know there is a rational explanation for my behavior.
Someone has attempted to come out 2 or 3 times each of the last few days, so far without success. I had thought I was willing to let this happen, but when it starts I am afraid. Do I need to feel safer than I do before I can let this happen? Or is there a protector intervening?