Two things that irk me

When you trust someone enough to tell them your DID and they either tell other people, or when they get mad at you they say something like "well pull whatever alter out....."

Or they say oh everyone has different personalities dear... we have our work personality and home personality... I dont know why you feel your DID...


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Those kinds of people can kiss our ass. I hate that too!

I have trusted 4 people to tell them and 2 abused that confidence by telling others or using it against me when they were upset.

1 is my son and he mostly only sees a couple of my alters and he doesnt totally understand it but he is cool with it all...

and the other is my husband and he knew long before I did but he didnt have a name for it. Problem is he just is a viewing type of person he doesnt get it and when I try to talk to him he doesnt get it. He had a horrible stroke 2 years ago and his mind isnt back totally and he doesnt get the issues we are going through being his only constant caregiver and he didnt tell us the truth about financial things we didnt find out until a few months after his stroke that the things he said were in place incase something ever happened to him because he is 25 years older than me. I have been with him 22 years btw... Now we have to figure out how to not fall apart which we have been doing and be the bread winner to pay the bills plus be his caregiver with no help from his family...

its a mess anyway there is no money and we use to be both very successful business owners. My business I couldnt do much after his stroke but be there with him and my business went downhill. HIs business got hit with the recession and he barely makes enough to pay for his damn cigarettes, lunch and gas now that he goes to his shop a few hours a week.. (yeah he started smoking and I cant stop him) he started to drive again but needs help in and out of the car.

He only can walk a small distance with a walkaid and cane and his left arm doesnt work and not all his mind is back...


He told me all those years he had insurance incase and he had money put away savings incase and I found none of it is real...

I am a mess and will talk more later

my son isnt one of the people who abused it.

Tracycelest- how did you tell your Son? was it just a natural understanding for him or was it strange? It's something I will have to go through at some point in the future and it's been on my mind- how do you tell that innocent baby Daddy's not just Daddy? i imagine they take it better than you think- but I don't know. Anyway- thanks.

As part of our education about DID, my husband and I watched the movie "Sybil" and the whole family is going to watch the TV series "United States of Tara". The series is in a third season now on the Showtime channel (US?) and the first season is available on DVD.

i have only told my fiance about my D.I.D and luckily he is very supportive and actually enjoys the fact i have other sides too me... he says he couldn't imagine us any other way now...

but people reacting the way you have described is what has always stopped me telling any friends or anyone... i wish i could but i am too scared they will betray m trust and tell other people.

Hey una+

I've recently started watching the United States of Tara too and feel that it'd be pretty helpful to show family (I've already shown some friends).
I guess my main concern right now is, how common is it to have "overt personalities" similar to the ones in Sybil and USOT? Since my new therapist who has experience with DID has been helping me...my alters have been coming out WAY more overtly and aren't really trying to hide the fact that theyre out...i mean it's not as dramatic as sybil or usot (I think......lol) but I know I rank very high on the dissociation spectrum and I just keep going back and forth through this denial it's ridiculous. I've told several people about my DID (although now I wish I could take it back) and my family now knows about it as well now but theyre having a hard time accepting it. I guess I felt at the time that I was so messed up inside that I should come with a warning label and just felt I was so weird that I had to explain myself. Im just not sure about anything anymore...