What If It Was A Lie?

Yeah, yeah. I know you guys are probably getting tired of me posting things, and I'm sorry, but I just have so many questions that built up throughout the years ^^''

So, me and Kendra have been talking a lot lately, and, well, my friend in school (who happens to be my best friend) says she has DID too. She's my best friend, so naturally I'm gonna believe her and help her and support her, you get the idea. But, Kendra isn't exactly the 'friendly' type, in case some of you haven't noticed already. Kendra is also the type of person who picks up on little details really well. She thinks that my friend doesn't have DID. Her reasons being:

~She never claimed to have the disorder until AFTER Kim told her and her other friend and Kim became the center of attention.
~There's hardly any differences between her Alters and herself.
~No one can actually tell when she 'switches'.
~She only mentions her alters after Kim has switched or brought up the subject.

In all honesty, I did have my doubts for a while, but I trust my best friend, and I couldn't imagine her lying to me like that. I know you can't give much of an opinion because you don't know my best friend, but what do you think? Sorry for the hard to answer questions..

In school there was a girl I knew too just like that, cept not with DID it was an "eating disorder" and "suicidal" crap. She would draw marker on herself and claim that she took "3 times the pills her dad takes for his heart and more than 1 can kill someone". Blah blah, Katie had clinical depression and went to a hospital, and then all of a sudden this chick would go around acting like she was "sicker" and "sadder" to be the center of attention. Why would you WANT to act like you're in pain or actually troubled, for attention?? I couldn't stand that girl.

OH yeah so anyway, if she is pretending then that is rough. For some reason she'd feel the need to be the most talked about in the group and try to get some of that attention off of you and onto her. BUT if she is legit then that's a weird combo of actions you're observing from her. Either way, be there for her to talk to about this stuff and if she is making it up she may tell you. If not then she needs someone who understands her the way you do.

R

LunaSyko wrote:~There's hardly any differences between her Alters and herself.
~No one can actually tell when she 'switches'.
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Be careful with these two. Many DID peeps hide it very well that is the nature of it for many. For example there are very few people that I have been around a good chunk of my life. Only one of those people who know me know I have DID and it was not until after I told this person that they said "ahhhhh it makes sense now" instead they thought maybe I was a bit crazy and very extreme. But my switches are very subtle. My T can see them but hardly anyone else cause part of the safety protocol withing my system is secrecy.

However I will say there are some others that come out and anyone who knows me knows that the other is not me.

As far as trusting others who say they have DID I am more inclined to question someone who is extreme in all there alters and extreme changes in switching. But who am I to say because if someone says they have DID and they do not then something very wrong is going on either way and they need help.

I can not imagine anyone wanting this for me it is hell a good deal of the time. Not knowing what I am doing half the time, not knowing is some other me said something to someone I care about. Having to isolate myself when I am switching massively and kids are around and I or someone of me has to say sorry I am sick leave me alone.

But it is the life I have, we have, you have.

Lolo

No one can actually tell when she 'switches'.

People can't seem to tell when we switch, even though kyle's partner has mentioned that we practically have different faces. I don't look like him much even though i have to deal with his body and all.
good at hiding it, or don't know how to look for the diifferences.


but there are always atention seekers out there and your other points make me inclinded to agree with you


[sorry typos, morgan's up too and on a very fine line between just sleep deprived and psychotic break. i'm triyng to help keep her calm but needed a moment distraction]

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carpediem46 wrote:Is she seeing a therapist that's told her this, or has she just assumed she does?

She isn't seeing a therapist, neither am I. We both have the same reason: Our parents won't believe us.