Not sure

Hi Everyone
Heidi keeps asking myself and the others that she has for us to just dissociate her for good none of us are willing to do so we are all pretty sure that it is not wise to do so she just feels it will be best to have one of use take total control from now on though we are trying to convince her other wise with out much luck none of us are sure what to do we want to see Heidi happy and we want her too feel safe and loved but we just dont know what to do any advice will be great
Ricky

talk to your therapist about it - never a good idea to push anyone inside for good, but that's just my opinion.

right now Heidi has no medical coverage but we did email one of the Ts she has before who told us that if Heidi is ever needs help with all she lives with that either have her email them herself or one of us can email them so I sent along email to them telling them that Heidi is trying to make it so one of us is in charge for good that she is trying to hide from everything
we are all hoping her former T gets back to her soon she has been arguing with us about everything we are all worried that if she doesnt relax soon or hear from the former T soon that we might have to dissociate her to keep her safe which is the only time we do so because we try not to dissociate her unless we really have to do so
Ricky

Could you maybe keep her inside a bit more lately so that she can de-stress a little for the moment, then give her opportunities to come out when it is safe and relaxing while one of you is co-present to keep watch for any potential danger? Say she could come out in a relaxing quiet park or at the movie theatre or something? That way she might start to enjoy being out a little more and stop wanting to go inside forever. We have no core and no main and would not recommend that you go down the path of keeping her inside permanently. For us it has made our problems a great deal harder to manage.

Is she still in an abusive situation? If she isn't, is she in a high stress environment instead? If she is in either of those positions still, I'd recommend everyone inside coming together and brainstorming possible solutions to get her out of those situations. Agree on one. Put an action plan into place and work together to ensure it happens. Think about resources which may be available to you. Government support, helplines that give advice, library books with ideas on how to get you all in a better place. Anything. Ultimately you all have to reduce that stress and work on healing and being able to cope healthily.