*URGENT* My Host Is Gone

Due to circumstances caused by Senza, my host has decided to disappear from us. Joshua became sick, vomited and crying. He thought he lost his girlfriend because of a letter Senza wrote accusing her of wrong doing. I cannot go into all detail because this is urgent!
What do I do to get him back?! Senza has disappeared also but another alter appeared today. That was his intention yet, that is another story. I have no idea how to handle this! I need help! Is it possible to regain him today and not wait forever?! Please, this is important!!!

-Nanashi-

Replying partly to bump this thread toward the top - urgency.

Hosts return by definition in general, I would guess.

What do you enjoy doing with your time? What does the host enjoy doing in their time? Anything in common? Do that. Create the host's happy place.
If that helps everybody to chill out, cool. If not, it might still be nice.

We split our time as much as we can, so I do not think that is the problem. You are right, he did come back but it is a bit different than before. I am really tired actually, most likely from the energy spent yesterday with Senza and then trying to find him. Playing music that he liked at the time if that helped any, along with his girlfriend helping. That might have really done the most.

Joshua is an artist so, he draws much. We write primarily at this time. His home situation causes stress that does not always allow him to focus so well, even with my help. If he is depressed if that is what is wrong now, would putting up drawings on the walls help? Of things we all like? Senza is gone still. Will that throw our system of balance as he is the protector?

It is strange I ask questions I know the answer to, but I hope maybe I do not see something obvious missed that another may. This has never happened before and it caused me to panic. Also, I am not sure what to make of this new alt. He remembers what Senza does when he writes to me (he is mute). He is much more gentle but, I miss my brother. I spoke to him before he departed and he said he possibly might come back...

Sleep is hard to attain for the past two nights so, I am going to make some tea. Thank you for your help and I will try and see if it helps. I appreciate your time!

-Nanashi-

Glad to hear that you appreciate getting a response. Personally I'm weary and nervous about posting online - usually I feel like everything I say on the internet is stupid.

I briefed my girlfriend on your situation (hope nobody minds - she won't repeat it) and she was happy to hear that he is back. I said "but their protector is still missing". And she chirped "he'll be back", and smiled.

What's the nature of the relationship between Senza and this new alter? Is he "new" new? Or just recently emergent? Are the two - or have they been - friends? Why is this new alter in your company now? How are you getting along?

Reading your second post, I'd say (although I'm an ignorant lay person) that your ideas seem bang on and you are doing everything right. You will get everything sorted soon enough. Perhaps Senza will be proud of you.

Do you mean saying anything relating to such a topic as this is stupid? You sound bright to me, dear, so I am sure your just saying that.

I don't mind at all. When I did come back, things seemed 'misplaced' and not real. I realized not too long after that Senza was gone and Nanashi said that another alt was in his stead...That scared that crap out of me. I don't have anything against my alts but, the thing is that I only want to deal with as few as possible.
I still somewhat feel that it could happen again so, I do my best to focus. Senza came back for a little yesterday to speak to Yuki and wanted to talk to her last night, but couldn't. He left again without clarifying if he would be back on not, of course...Now things are dizzy again.

-Joshua-

I am back now. My relationship to Senza and the new alt? Senza is my brother, living on either side of Joshua's mind. I suppose you can say we get along, haha. He is extremely difficult and is opinionated. This new alt, we do not know his name as he is mute, seem to get along. SEEM. Senza does not really want him around too much and says we should not allow at front until we know more. He is new, unpresent before.
Senza wanted him to deal with the difficult memories he did not want to manage anymore as he said they were causing him to do more harm than good. He does seem better now, or at least before he departed again. As to what the new alt's function is of his own, I am not sure yet. It is too early to say. He likes riddles and the such, though. I take care of him at the moment.

We put pictures up last night. Not many as Joshua does not want his better ones to be subject to accidental damage. He was thinking of drawing a little on the walls to to add some personality to the atmosphere. Last night was not good, however so, we had little to no sleep. We really need some things in Joshua's life to change soon...

Thank you so much again for responding! I hope you and your love are doing wonderfully. Pleae take care. With love.

-Nanshi-

Is Senza back? I ask because one of my alters Hillary hijacked my mind every time i tried to read. (thanks Hillary), if he has not yet returned, do not panic because i assure you he will be back, i think he just needs time to himself to think to sort things out and when he does come back he will be much surer of himself.
I say this with confidence as I have been through it before when Jarrod went missing. Twice, he just told me he needed time to think. Time to calm himself.

Good luck and i hope he returns for your happiness sooner rather than later.


~Marie~

Nanashi wrote:Due to circumstances caused by Senza, my host has decided to disappear from us. Joshua became sick, vomited and crying. He thought he lost his girlfriend because of a letter Senza wrote accusing her of wrong doing. I cannot go into all detail because this is urgent!
What do I do to get him back?! Senza has disappeared also but another alter appeared today. That was his intention yet, that is another story. I have no idea how to handle this! I need help! Is it possible to regain him today and not wait forever?! Please, this is important!!!

-Nanashi-

Hi Nanashi it is nice to see you!

I can only tell you what I just went thru being the host and being gone for a little more then a week.
I got so very tired with all of this I just could not think anymore, wrap my head around anything and I just wanted to disappear. I did not mean to cause chaos or hurt anyone I just wanted rest thinking someone else could take over for a while.

What a did not know is a new alter no one knows was causing so much havoc but i went inside. Instead of one of the more capable others coming forward ( my T filled me in as well as some others on what happened on the outside) Rabbit was pushed forward and stuck out. Not good at all cause she does not live outside more the a few moments at a time she calculates risk. Rabbit believes she is a robot and does not understand much of anything human interaction.

Anyway what had happened is the new alt armed with using my exhaustion for his gain pushed out the one that is never to be out long to show if his way is not followed he will do this again. He has what seems since no one knows some form a OCD and was upset some patterns were changed. Anyway he can't do that cause his actions caused him to be noticed and safety things have been put in place. But as a host I get so tired I can not even speak, click an icon on the puter or anything. In fact there are times I honesty think I don'y have the power to take a breath.

Others thought I had gone forever. No. But some things were learned while I was inside by me and that is very good. I have apologized and we are trying to work out something so when I am that tired there is a plan in place for others to step in.

Lolo