Re: How do third parties deal with those who suffer from MPD

Charlie wrote:I would like to understand how carers of those who suffer from MPD cope with the strain of living with someone who has multiple personalities. While I cannot estimate how tough it would be to live with such a disorder it must be very difficult for those loved ones around them and do those who suffer from MPD always know who their loved ones are in whatever alter they are in?

Hi Charlie,
Personally I don't consider it 'suffering' .. at least not anymore. There was a time when it was very difficult, but now that we are more organized and things have changed so much in our lives it is not so bad. In fact, they are useful. I like organization however, I am not the cleanest person on the planet (by far) there are others who are far better at that and I gladly let them do housework. As you can imagine this helps not only me but my wife loves it. I'm not sure what the rest of my family thinks about them; but quite a few of them know. Of my parents, my Dad dealt with it better. I don't think he was ever quite sure how to handle it (how would anyone really?) but he was the only one they would talk to as themselves (as opposed to pretending to be me) and I think it was because he was willing to acknowledge them by name. My Mom knows but we never really talk about it; we are closer now though and we have talked some and joked some. My in-laws are good about it; I had never really planned on telling them but I guess my wife did because it was so obvious at times that they wondered what was going on. All in all my family is really good about it. There are others who know, but it never really comes up in conversation because there really isn't much to talk about.
My best friend growing up was really great. Both of us were fairly new in the (small) town we lived in, so neither one of us really fell into a clique. Since we were so close, when it became known I had multiples, he was friends to them as well which was great. The internet was also a great thing for some of them because they could chat and be 'themselves' anonymously and no one would know the difference. This was especially nice for the girls I have.
Well, I've babbled on for quite a while now and I have to get to work but if you have any more questions or comments we'd be happy to hear them.

-Rich
and Company

Hello,
Names trintiy, My GF has MPD/DID, but she does not know it. I must say at this time it is kind of heard at times to handl the others inside. Some of them don't know who I am, and some of those think there dating other people, people they had been dating when there where younger.My GF and I have a 3 month old baby, and that is a Joy to us both, and most of the others seem to like it as well.
I must say, sometimes it's very heard to deal with things, I get to see my GF but it's not her, some times is very sad, but the kids are a lot of fun and they like to play with our baby.

So it has it's up's and down's, but I think in the end it will be okay.
-Trinity