dissociative identity disorder

i have been working with my disorder for over just one year now. this disorder never really seemed to upset me much as i kind of had a feeling that is what was wrong with me a long time ago. in all honesty i am glad i am not a singleton. i enjoy my alters most of the time.
they do come out when they want to and it does cause a little bit of a problem from time to time. sometimes even at work. there will be times when i don't remember going to work so i'll ask around to make sure i didn't do anything wrong.
i don't recommend telling your boss that you have this disorder as it may put you under a microscope and undue pressure. It may cause a trust lost in your work abillity. Just be careful who you decide to tell that's all. People can be a little weird when it comes to mental illness and disorders.
atleast one of my alters has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. i guess i'm not handling this too well. i've researched it some and i don't like what it implies. it even kind of scares me so what are other peoples reactions going to be? i'll be talking to my T next week some more on this.
I have Kara, Karan, Kathy, KJ, Cutter and Willow. My T doesn't know about Willow yet as she hasn't come out at therapy yet. she will when she is ready. that's how i do my thing. everyone is different. that's ok.
Kara is the darkness who is waiting to die. Karan is the extremely shy one who comes out infrequently, Kathy goes to work, KJ likes to have fun and make people laugh and draws, Cutter cuts on us and is for the sexual relationships and Willow is 6 years old and a girl. i hear a man inside too but don't know who he is or if he has come out. I'll ask the T.
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How come you feel you need to tell your boss about the DID? There are many people out there who have all kinds of personality disorders, and combinations thereof and they aren't telling their bosses about how they tick. This is your personal business. I would suggest that you be careful who you disclose this info to. "Don't cast pearls to swine". Those who are not familiar with DID tend to let their imaginations run wild. There are many very high functioning DID people out there. Youi might be surprised at what you'd find if you could peek inside your boss' head. It probably wouldn't be as "pretty" as you imagine. There can be a myriad of reasons that you can give for how you handle situations at work. You don't have to provide the real one, just a reason that satisfies the situation. Provide a plausible reason that facilitates your work environment, not one that creates more drama and suggests that you are less of a competent person that you really are. I hope you find these thoughts helpful.

Best of my knowledge it seems that someone set me up to see which posters I read on here. To see who influenced who.


I had a team of people that I reported basically daring me into telling them. I'm assuming they knew already because of the 'we' that I sometimes use especially while in interviews when I get anxiety and alluded to my headmates. I had two women telling me irrevant stuff later on I had no choice but to assume they was trying to map me. I had one say to me "there's a project coordinator in there" and another said "I'm a nurse". One other told me I said a word funny because one of kids alters was trying to interefere. I had strict rules like my boss was my mother that the other peer didn't have. Like let me know everytime you leave the building you time when you log in and out. She question every second of my hours doubting my memories. I was scolded due to a mistake when it could have been handled way differently. I worked in a test system with fake names and fake sites. I didn't not say anything at the particular times, just hide it and these memories resurfaced later on when I put two and two together. I worked for a large pharma company, so there would be some knowledge with DSM books laying around. I/we never mentioned being multiple. This followed me with co workers doing the exact same thing at my next several jobs. So basically, I feel set up to see if I would have done the opposite or just what someone here did while at work. I'm proud to say you got your wish I'm disabled now, it was so stupid I wish death to each every member involved.

I reported my diagnosis of DID to my employer. By doing so, by law where I live, I obtained certain extra rights and protections. I am entitled to reasonable accommodations at work, all I have to do is ask, and I have additional protection from harassment of any kind. If they discriminate against me I can take them to a special court and expect to win a lot of money.

As it happens I am a very high functioning, respected, and valuable employee. I have not needed any accommodations but the protection from harassment has come into play.

Note: employer often does not equal boss. You may need to report to Human Resources not your supervisor.

Una if you don't mind me asking what accomdations is an employer willing to provide? Is this on your terms when you feel there is a problem? Do ask for more time, less work, extra breaks, less talking in a meeting or more talking in a meeting, one on one help? Seems like it is opening up pandora's box by evening letting employer or Human Resources know. Maybe I'm looking at it totally wrong. I used to be very high functioning but that was all taken away from me. I will take into consideration what you wrote if and when I need to. thanks!

This varies depending on where in the world you are. Where I am, my employer is required to provide any reasonable accommodations I request. The employer does not get to decide what is reasonable or what they are willing to provide.

Reasonable accommodations that someone with DID might request include transfer to a different position or a different work site (perhaps so you can take public transit instead of driving, or so you can get to therapy sessions), strictly solitary work, strictly team work, a fixed schedule, a flexible schedule, work from home, no work from home, day shift, night shift, a private office, a shared office, use of a single-person "unisex" toilet, 80% time, half time, a secretary, software or other scheduling tools to help stay on task, monitoring software in your work environment, tracking software on your work phone or in your work vehicle, parental controls on the work computer, no computer, psycho-education and briefing of co-workers, mediation or counseling or reassignment of any harassing co-workers, development of a written emergency response plan for co-workers to use in case of a hard switch to a dysfunctional alter or a dissociative fugue.

Do you see? You can ask for whatever you need to work safely and productively.

To qualify for legal protections you must have a formal diagnosis, be qualified for the work, and function adequately in daily life.

Monitoring on a work vehicle? Really? No, seriously I had the most humilating experience at a driving job and with company trainers, and maintenance guy kept talking about how monitors are every where cameras are every where in the building etc. I guess I should have told employers up front, but I never had to before cause the host worked mostly was able to hid it well or least from the host. I've just had the horribliest experiences the last couple years that are, so traumatic is why I'm writing from these words. It was like I was violated in the 'work' sense because I didn't do like you or other who allow employers to know diagnoses. To me I felt provoked using humilation tactics to tell them and it never occured to me to tell until the very last employer right before I applied for disability. Then I got picked on then subsequently fired and no one ever beleieved my story the manager or no one. That Is why I do all I can to educate myself based on the past experience. I believe I'm well equiped with what I've learned to share my story and to try to start again with my career because I don't feel disability is my long term happiness is what I'm concerned about. I rid myself from the abusive group who I felt had something to do with it as well another BIG step for me.

I am very sorry you had this awful experience, buter8137.

After the employee gets fired it is too late to disclose a health condition. To obtain legal protections the condition must be disclosed voluntarily and in advance.

If I only knew what the overseer was trying to get me to do I would have done that. I never had to face anything like this in my life was very ignorant, but now not. How the hell do you know yourself so well in the beginning to even know what problems are at work. The whole thing was a set up in my case. I've just been searching to see if anyone on this site has gone through anything similar, I guess not. I'm more jaded that I'm a victim of therapy abuse and is going to try again to file for damages. Thanks Una.