Another Sex/Masturbation Topic (Could be T/graphic)

josh_alters wrote:I recently found out I have littles I thought I was just thinking random things and yet I heard random things inside but not from my known others.
And I haven't been wanting to do anything in this area this week as I felt really uncomfortable with it and I didn't know why until I found out I had littles.
Now I just don't want to as I am being obsessive about protecting them and I need to learn how to block these kind of things out from them.

I am in the SAME boat as you my friend. I also only recently found out that I have younger alters, some of them very young, and at least one of them started bawling at the mention of bedtime. My SO dealt with it very well, considering 'I' cried myself to sleep that night, pretty much (very unexpected, since I have a hard time getting myself to cry even at times when I wanted to). Solo getting off has also had some really disturbing repercussions at first (crying, grimacing, etc unexplained body language).

It has gotten a little bit better but it's still something I would rather just not have any part of. That said, for some reason I still instigate/do not actively prevent more sexual encounters (solo or with SO, no risk taking... anymore), even though there are always uncomfortable repercussions... It creates a lot of tension. So there's clearly some opposed parties here. If anything works for you, let me know

Actually, I should mention again that it has gotten better for me. I think it is a combined effort towards communicating ahead of time (trying to get kids to sleep, not that they always listen I'm sure) and just not pushing the issue (not going too far with any activity) but not avoiding it altogether.

Thanks for the words of confidence also one thing that I want to bring up is I have a teen female alter and she gets put of when I'm in the bathroom, toilet or shower.
I understand I do but Its making me feel really uncomfortable because I know Its upsetting her being inside a male body.

If there's something inappropriate for kids, I ask them to go inside (into another room). Could you maybe ask one of the adult alters to take care of them, sometimes?

I would ask the teen to do the same (ask her to go into another room), if she's so bothered by the bathroom. Either that or just tell her not to look

canolime wrote:If there's something inappropriate for kids, I ask them to go inside (into another room). Could you maybe ask one of the adult alters to take care of them, sometimes?

I would ask the teen to do the same (ask her to go into another room), if she's so bothered by the bathroom. Either that or just tell her not to look

i try to just avoid those situations when kids are up (my boyfriend is aware that i'm a mutiple and he's ok with it)

not sure if that works when it's 'needs' rather than wants (no matter what anyone says, sex is NOT a need) i suppose 'dont look' is a decent, amusing tho, suggestion

Collingwood wrote:Oh really!? wow. I'm not fully conscious of what goes on but I am sure we also have some of that going on. But I felt like it must be unique. Good to know it's not so weird.

It's fairly common.

-Mik

canolime wrote:If there's something inappropriate for kids, I ask them to go inside (into another room). Could you maybe ask one of the adult alters to take care of them, sometimes?

I would ask the teen to do the same (ask her to go into another room), if she's so bothered by the bathroom. Either that or just tell her not to look

Took the words right out of my mouth!

If there is anything sexual going on, out here, with myself and my partner we make sure the kids are locked from getting near the front. Sometimes it requires an adult to entertain them, sometimes it's just a matter of locking a mental door. If they get curious we just tell them that sometimes big people do things that little people aren't allowed to see, or "don't need" to see (works better for the rebellious ones ).

Yeah, just tell the teen to step away. She doesn't have to look.

-Mik