New and questioning

Do it. I look forward to reading it.

canolime wrote:Same kind of thing happened when one of my kid alters named her stuffed animal. A couple of days later, I forgot what she named it, so I asked her... I was pleasantly surprised when she quickly said the same name that she had said the first time

Oh that's neat

Lillyrose wrote:I agree with canolime. Imagination is great for writers but for us it's a bad word, especially when someone tries to tell us that it's just our imagination.

Yeah, I understand that completely. The problem with me is that, well, I am a writer, and I know for sure I have a really vivid imagination... That doesn't really help in figuring things out.

I still haven't really heard anything from them since then but I dunno... Even just the morning after I was wondering if it was real or not. But then I was telling friend about stuff and I felt that sensation again, it's not really that common but I've started to assume that's an attempted switch. I stopped it because I didn't want to have to explain suddenly stopping in the middle of talking but I wondered later if that was a good idea. It didn't feel like D, but it might've been someone trying to stop me from telling... No one seemed to have complaints afterwards, but again I haven't really heard from them either.

Sorry for double posting. I just remembered another question...

Is it normal to have alters talking to you and then like, you can hear their voices but not what they're saying? That happened to me a few times that time, it was really odd...

I think I had another question but I forgot it again, so I'll post again if I remember. ._.

I don’t know if it will help but nearer the beginning for me I would get half a sentence and had to attempt to finish it in order to learn what was wanted. It was like they lacked the energy to get a long sentences out.

Can anyone else confirm just short sentences?

In the very beginning after the initial contact it was like they backed off a bit or it was another one attempting to be heard but I couldn’t make out what was being said. I used to say, “If you want me to understand, you are going to have to be much more clearer”. I think it worked. I know I’m not in full contact with them all. I can’t be sure about this but I think there might be one or two who do not want contact. I’ve got a good handle on it but I’m still learning and discovering more all the time.

Skink wrote:Is it normal to have alters talking to you and then like, you can hear their voices but not what they're saying? That happened to me a few times that time, it was really odd...

Like it's kind of muffled? I got that a lot when I first realized they were alters. I think part of it was I was trying too hard to listen to them, and not totally believing they're real.

I did something similar to what Lillyrose did. I made a deal with one of my alters: I would really try to accept they were real, if they would try talking louder and clearer, so I could understand them. Now, I rarely have times where I get that muffled sound.

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Lillyrose wrote:I don’t know if it will help but nearer the beginning for me I would get half a sentence and had to attempt to finish it in order to learn what was wanted. It was like they lacked the energy to get a long sentences out.

Can anyone else confirm just short sentences?

Yeah, I used to get that a lot. It can be frustrating

First of all, thank you so much for your replies. You've been really helpful Second, sorry for the delay on my part. There've been some distractions, but mostly I just wasn't sure what to say... I think I'm running out of questions for the time being, but I'm sure I'll have more later, lol.

Anyway, it seems like they're getting a little more comfortable with the idea of me knowing about them, and vice versa. I found a new one last night, I think he'd been trying to get my attention for a while, but, well, he's a bit spastic so it was hard to get a bead on him. No name from this guy, but I think I got an age confirmation, at 7, which would explain a bit about his behavior. He refused to give me a straight answer on anything I asked...or more like he was very blunt, but he'd constantly change his answers if I asked a similar question (or the same one in the case of names). I don't really know what to make of that... He was also really hyper...

So...somehow it seems like I'm up to four? How did that happen?? This is a little much...

Oh I thought of something. I'm going to use a weird example, so forgive me... My roleplay character with DID is co-conscious, I think I mentioned that, but anyway, sometimes, or maybe often, his alters will kinda, well, I came up with my own term for it before, "co-piloting", where he's in the driver's seat, but someone else will be sitting next to him helping him steer. I guess that's kind of a weird analogy but hopefully it makes sense? ._. Anyway, I think, with the exception of D, none of them know how to switch but I have the suspicion some of them are rather good at co-piloting, but that's not really so obvious. I'm not really sure what kind of question to add to this babbling, now that I think about it. I guess I'm just a little about it all?

Delays are fine with me

Skink wrote:Anyway, it seems like they're getting a little more comfortable with the idea of me knowing about them, and vice versa.

Cool

Maybe he's being difficult because he doesn't trust you enough. Alters can be secretive.

Skink wrote:So...somehow it seems like I'm up to four? How did that happen?? This is a little much...

I think after the initial shock wears off, you'll be okay

Skink wrote:I came up with my own term for it before, "co-piloting", where he's in the driver's seat, but someone else will be sitting next to him helping him steer. I guess that's kind of a weird analogy but hopefully it makes sense? ._.

Do you mean someone is in control of the body, but another is in control of parts of the body?

Skink wrote:his alters will kinda, well, I came up with my own term for it before, "co-piloting", where he's in the driver's seat, but someone else will be sitting next to him helping him steer. I guess that's kind of a weird analogy but hopefully it makes sense?

canolime wrote:Do you mean someone is in control of the body, but another is in control of parts of the body?

This is EXACTLY how I (and we) feel sometimes! And an excellent analogy that I am going to use to talk to my T who I had trouble describing this to. I mean like when someone young is out, it is like I am sometimes there controlling the vocal cords (to sound older) but the rest of the body and the words are from them. Idget also does this. She says she has to talk for Rain because Rain has some kind of problem with speech, though the words are "interpreted aloud" so to speak, by Idget.

Is this weird, do others have this experience?

InfinitD wrote:Is this weird, do others have this experience?

I don't think it's weird (well, not for a multiple) J can talk, when I'm in control. And if I'm panicking too much, C will kind of scratch (not hard) my leg in a certain way because it calms me down and gets me to be more present.

Some multiples have talked about being in control, but letting an alter draw (so they're in control of the hand). I read about a main closing their eyes, walking around, and letting an alter control the hands, so the alter could find something that had been purposely hidden by another alter, without the main figuring out where it was hidden

I like your signature

Canolime,

Thanks for sharing those stories, it makes me feel a little better. This has been one of those problems that makes me go from denial to acceptance and back to denial again. Having that experience and not describing it well so my T could help me or understand me was more fodder for denial (I know, I know).

And thank you for the compliment on the signature. We tried to put just one quote but none of us could agree which one (they both seem so pertinent) so we just put both. lol