Advice Please

Hello
I am suppose to be going to a family function the first weekend in October and my mother keeps telling me that I have until the family function to figure out how to stop spacing out though I keep telling her that I can’t help it she insists that I can. Many of my other personalities have left me notes where I can find them offering to explain things to my mother but I feel as though I should be the one to explain things to my mother though I don’t know how to explain things to her. In my family we don’t talk about mental health the only thing my family considers to be a real mental health challenge is depression any thing else than that you get odd looks. Though I feel I should be honest with my family about what is going on I just don’t know how to tell them what is going on. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
Gray Wolf

Well I would tell her to f*** off, but I don't think that would go over so well.

You should go see a psychologist have them explain that you can't control your spaciness. It's called dissociation and it's related to switching.

You cannot realistically expect to have a completely dissociation free experience,
you are human and there are triggers that can arise.

I really hope your mom can accept you for how you are.

My parents didn't believe that I was depressed to start and I had to take them to see
a professional that had diagnosed me and have them explain it to them.
Once I found out I had DID I had to do the same thing, although they believed me at
that point.
They had all kinds of misconceptions and fears and ignorance towards it, and hearing
it from a professional really helped.
It also helped them to see that United States of Tara (a show about a woman with DID) was
on main stream tv, so they could see that the stigma behind it was a bit lessened and
they could relate a bit to the characters on the show and see what it was like for me.
(I have a handful of very developed alters that appear very extreme like Tara's)
In the end though it was up to them to accept that I had this.

It is very hard for parents to accept that their child has DID because
1) It means they did not protect their child adequately
2) It means their child has been through horrendous abuse
3) It is much easier to be in denial because if you pretend it's not there maybe it will go away (But it doesn't)

They also care a lot about what other people think of them and you and may not realize it's not in your
power to control it. If you can get a professional to explain to them that it's unrealistic and unreasonable for them
to expect you to be completely present at the family gathering that would be awesome.

At the same time too parents are human and there isn't always a best case scenario.
Sometimes they will just refuse to believe it and they will push unrealistic demands on you.

What's most important is that you take care of you and don't blame yourself for it.

Release information on a need to know only basis and think it through fully before disclosing.
Not everyone is helpful when it comes to disclosing DID and can actually be a trigger.
Make sure you have a good idea how they will react before disclosing and have a good reason to.

Good luck.