Running a system

Hey, my name's Harry. I've not really had much to do with my system before but some of the other alters called me in to help and I'm not really doing such a great job.

I suppose I'm taking on a protector role and trying to help the system run smoothly but I have no idea what I need to do. If anyone has any pointers on being a protector I'd appreciate it a lot; I'm starting from blank here.

Harry.

Ey Harry, nice to meet you

The best thing I can say is to put the system before yourself. Sorry if that isnt much help.

Don't do it all by yourself
I do a lot of protecting
I need someone, at least one or two others to get my back
Just in case!
You need to work to make sure everything runs smoothly
Try not to keep your main from feeling what they need to
Even if it's scary
Protect when you need to
Re-evaluate if you're protecting too much
Make sure you don't mess up the outside life
Be a good support and give lots of inner hugs
Maybe learn a martial art or take a class in being assertive
The best part is giving hugs to everyone and reassuring them we will be ok
Reassuring is the best
Remember that not everyone is bad
Try not to scare people away
But be firm and keep you guys safe
Like don't follow strangers around
If someone makes you guys feel bad
Instead of blowing up tell them please not to do it again
Tell them in order to get respect they need to give you respect
If they don't do it then stay away from them
The important thing is to keep healthy people around
But make sure that the major decisions are healthy and
be sure to get input from everyone
If someone is scared or unhappy find out why
otherwise there might be someone that undoes work you already did
Make sure you're happy too.
If you're safe then sometimes you can let your guard down for a little bit
Just for a few minutes
And get used to the fact that LIFE happens sometimes bad things don't happen
Sometimes they do
But we'll miss out on the good things otherwise
That's some stuff I learned from being a protector

"F"