Slight trouble again

Yeah but the thing is there's no one safe for her to talk to? My friends don't realize she's talks about it cuz she wants stopped. I agree she just needs to talk but she can't. Not in this case anyways.
-christina

confused14 wrote:Yeah but the thing is there's no one safe for her to talk to? My friends don't realize she's talks about it cuz she wants stopped. I agree she just needs to talk but she can't. Not in this case anyways.
-christina

Well, if there is no one in real life that she can talk to, I guess she could talk to me. I can't promise I'd be of much help, but at least she'd be able to get things off her chest. Sometimes just talking works a little.

She hasn't told your friends that's why she's telling them about it? She should really tell them that she just needs someone to help her not do it.

I dont want her coming on here. I dont want her to ruin image of me and I don't want her to get me banned. I want to be able to be strong enough for her that she can talk to me when she feels that way.

She didn't tell her friends thats why. She just kept saying how she hated the feeling and was wanting it to go away. She sounded so angry

confused14 wrote:I dont want her coming on here. I dont want her to ruin image of me and I don't want her to get me banned. I want to be able to be strong enough for her that she can talk to me when she feels that way.

She didn't tell her friends thats why. She just kept saying how she hated the feeling and was wanting it to go away. She sounded so angry

What about finding another DID forum for her? If she does get banned, you'll still have this place. She needs some kind of technique that will calm her down, before she posts something in anger You can talk to her, when she's in control, right? If she gets mad, could you try (if you haven't, already) to get her to walk away from the computer, for maybe an hour or however long it takes her to cool down? I know you want to be there for her (and that's good), but if you're the only one she has, you might get burned out too quickly. You both need other people that you can go to.

She should explain it to them. I don't know if they will understand what she wants, unless she tells them.

okay...so I have another forum for her now. That was a good idea. I can talk to her when she is in control most of the time but it normally does no good. She ignores me when she is mad. I tried before to make Norma leave the computer one time when she was angry...it was actually on this site...but she didn't listen to me until both of us ended up getting banned. I try still tho to calm her down when she's mad.
She is behaving though...I can't just lock her up when she gets angry even tho thats what I feel like doing sometimes. It only makes her worse. I cant wait to get a counsler who will help norma...

Good. I hope she likes it there Please remind her that she needs to try not to blow up at people, or she'll be bouncing from forum to forum, and there aren't many of them out there I know she can't really help it, but just remind her It would stink if she got used to the people and setting at one forum, and then had to find another one.

Okay, I figured you had already tried to calm her down I should probably try searching for ideas on how to make her take time to calm down... I'll try to remember to do that when I'm not so sleepy

Yeah, locking her up really didn't work out that well I know it's tempting

It would be great if you could find a therapist who knows how to handle this type of thing

yeah, I think it will be good for her. She already posts in there. I am going to moniter her for a little bit. I think maybe if they listen to her, people will not get her mad. She wants to talk about the memories she has.. She tried telling me but I couoldn't handle it. She needs to talk about it.
Tell C norma says thanks...don't worry...Norma doesn't wanna talk right now either for herself lol because she excited about getting a reply for what she wrote. She is cute man.
Why are you sleepy? Why you not sleeping then? I can't wait til im 18. Only four more years.

Monitoring for a little bit might be a good idea. Yeah, I think she mostly just wants someone to listen/believe her. It'll be good for her to get those memories out, and even better since this way she won't have to tell you, yet

I haven't slept yet I'll go to bed in a couple of hours, I guess. It's already like 10am, here

I hope it begins to get better before 4 years passes by

How come you said she wont have to tell me "yet"? Does that mean eventually, she gonna have to tell me? I don't want to knoww about it or even think about it.

You know, I was thinking, we have both grown since we started coming on here. We have come a long way. It's gotten better this much within like not even one month yet...I might not even need help when I become 18.


Do you not like sleeping? Do you have bad dreams? Have you just been staying on the computer the whole time?

confused14 wrote:How come you said she wont have to tell me "yet"? Does that mean eventually, she gonna have to tell me? I don't want to knoww about it or even think about it.

No, I didn't mean that If you don't want to know, I don't think you have to. Disregard the "yet"... I didn't mean it that way.

confused14 wrote:You know, I was thinking, we have both grown since we started coming on here. We have come a long way. It's gotten better this much within like not even one month yet...I might not even need help when I become 18.

Do you not like sleeping? Do you have bad dreams? Have you just been staying on the computer the whole time?

That's true I hope it keeps getting better

I kind of uh... torture myself by delaying sleep I'm a little self destructive Yeah, mostly on the computer. I get up now and then... I have to take my dog out every few hours