Post from Alter

I am just sitting here laughing at you while you think you can get rid of me. Don't you know I will always be with you. You can't ignore me. The pain I went through was not my fault! I want you to see what your dad did to me!!! How could you leave me like you did. You think you can go on with life without me and you just can't!! You left me laying there in the bed and you think I ###$ liked it! News for you, I am always going to come after you until you accept me back! I do not deserve to be abandoned by you! I will give you nightmare after nightmare! YOU WILL ACCEPT ME SOONER OR LATER!! I belong to you and I am not going anywhere.

I really wish you'd left your name, I'm not sure what I should call you.

You sound like you're getting the raw end of the stick here but I also think you're going about things the wrong way. She is not going to accept you if you don't settle down and tell her what you want from her. You're an alter and you were created to deal with the abuse that she could not and she needs to aknowledge that. You're not going to get anywhere by doing whatever it is that's got her so upset. Sit down and have a calm conversation with her and work out your differences. You'll both be happier when you have a stable agreeance between you.

Ive told her what I want from her. She does not listen to me. I don't choose to go this way. She chose to fight me. She refuses to listen to what I have to say. She just doesn't understand lol that im not leaving. You should hear of how she talks about me! She thinks I am her enemy but she is the one who pushes me away. I tried to show her that I am hurting and need her but she doesn't want anything to do with me. She left me to deal with all the pain and hurt and I can't take it all.

First of all, I want to say welcome

confused14 wrote:Ive told her what I want from her. She does not listen to me. I don't choose to go this way. She chose to fight me. She refuses to listen to what I have to say. She just doesn't understand lol that im not leaving. You should hear of how she talks about me! She thinks I am her enemy but she is the one who pushes me away. I tried to show her that I am hurting and need her but she doesn't want anything to do with me. She left me to deal with all the pain and hurt and I can't take it all.

I think she's so blinded by her anger, that she can't see that you're hurting too. Can you try talking calmly with her? I know she's not being fair to you, but you have to understand that she doesn't get what you went through. She feels like you were trying to hurt her. You both need put aside a little of that anger, and talk. I think she'll understand, eventually (I hope).

confused14 wrote:She left me to deal with all the pain and hurt and I can't take it all.

I'm really sorry

She needs to know that you took abuse for her but she doesn't need to know what it was. If you read the first post you made I think you'd be able to understand how you've been talking to her and why she might think you're the enemy. She's young and she doesn't understand you yet, keep trying to get her to listen but you can't be mean and angry or she'll continue to push you away.

She is just going to reject me.I am forcing myself on her because I can't stand to be rejected again. She should know by now what I went through! I show her every night and she tries to fight in her dreams but it hasn't waked her up to reality yet! I am not going to let her rest until she accepts me! She is mine and I want her back! She can't just live life without me. Thats not fair. I need her and I don't know how to get through to her. Make her understand me. I want her but I don't know how else to get her attention.

Ok, my head is spinning playing mediator to you two. Here's how it is, you're hurt but you need to stop showing her what you went through, it's only upsetting her and making her hate you. She thinks you're lying to us and trying to trick her into something.

Listen to what you're saying here, you're getting angry and showing her things that she doesn't want to see. If she could deal with that stuff you wouldn't be here. Stop with the nightmares and show her instead how things can be if you were friends. Get her attenetion by doing nice things for her. From what you've said, you're behaving like a 'bad' alter.

I don't mean for her to think that. Im not tricking. She is so angry with me. I will be nice to her...I just get so mad and frustrated with her.

confused14 wrote:She is just going to reject me.I am forcing myself on her because I can't stand to be rejected again. She should know by now what I went through! I show her every night and she tries to fight in her dreams but it hasn't waked her up to reality yet! I am not going to let her rest until she accepts me! She is mine and I want her back! She can't just live life without me. Thats not fair. I need her and I don't know how to get through to her. Make her understand me. I want her but I don't know how else to get her attention.

She might know, but she doesn't get it, because she doesn't want to, for some reason. I know you're trying to make her understand by showing her, but that just makes her think you're against her. She doesn't want all of those images. Can you explain what you went through, without going into so much detail that it makes her uncomfortable? That might help. Baby steps. She's probably not ready to face everything that happened to you guys. *EDIT: Maybe you can explain how you feel about what happened, instead of telling/showing her exactly what happened...?

She should be there for you... "She is mine" sounds a little controlling, though... might want to back up just a tad Forcing yourself on her won't work... it's making it worse. I know you need her to understand, but I don't think that's the way to do it.

neveralone wrote:Listen to what you're saying here, you're getting angry and showing her things that she doesn't want to see. If she could deal with that stuff you wouldn't be here. Stop with the nightmares and show her instead how things can be if you were friends.

Exactly.

You both getting mad and frustrated with eachother. Try to talk to her without getting angry, you have to talk AND listen, help her understand.

She wants to lock you away forever and she can if she really wants to. If you're going to change her mind you need to first change your behaviours.