I have a few questions

I hope it's okay to ask

1) Is it possible to feel very strong emotions from alters, as if they're your own? I know I can sort of feel what they feel, but this is more than that. Sometimes I get a sudden burst of some kind of emotion, but it doesn't seem like I should be having those emotions. Like a few days ago, I was walking back from getting food, and all of a sudden, I was hit with an insecure feeling... like when you're a little kid, and get scared, and then just want to be held real tight. And while walking outside, alone, does make me nervous, it shouldn't have caused anything like that And since I was 6, I've had times where I get a burst of feeling furious, for no reason at all. However, during those times, I'm still in control of my movements and speech... so... is that possible?

2) Sometimes I'll go to bed with the TV on, and I'll wake up with it off... or the other way around. Sometimes I'll go to sleep with it on Nick@ Nite/Nickelodeon, and wake up with it on another channel, like Disney When I was little, I thought it was someone else in the house doing it, but as I got older, and no one ever came in my room... it can't be them. And the remote is usually far out of my reach, so I can't be rolling over it. There are periods where I've been going to bed fine, and waking up all sore and having very noticeable bruises on my knees. I can't figure out where bruises were/are coming from Could someone else be awake, while I'm asleep?

3) One of my alters (C, for short) had to make me submit my first post, because after I had written it all, I started to panic about posting it. She had been trying to make me post it for a while, and eventually sounded tired of trying. She made me promise to post it, I did, then she went completely quiet. I figured I/she/we were tired, so I just posted and went to bed. The next day, my mind has never been so quiet I knew my head had a lot of chatter, but I hadn't realized exactly how much noise there was, until it was all gone. I could sense them in the background, but they weren't talking, and I felt like C wasn't there at all I had read about alters disappearing for a while and coming back, so I tried not to freak out too much. Eventually, the chatter came back, and I started talking more with J. I asked her what happened to C, she said "She needed a break". Okay, I get that, but now that C is back, she doesn't really talk much at all. We've always talked about everything She just sits in the background, and comments on a few things. I'm talking a lot more with J, now, and that's good, but I want to talk with C like I used to. What in the world happened?

4) Any ideas on how I can get someone to write something? I tried leaving notes on my bed, but haven't gotten anything back. Whenever C or J (both are girls, by the way) take control, it's only for about a minute... I know this sounds nuts, but does that mean they can't/won't ever take over for longer periods? I told them they can, for a while, if we're alone in the room, but I didn't even get a verbal response to that.

Thank you

Oh boy, a lot to tackle.

1. Yes, been there done that. Sometimes you feel things when they know something you don't because a certain situation reminds them of an old memory or something.

2. They're seperate people sharing one body, hell yes they can turn a TV off or change a channel. And plenty of alters will get up when you're asleep.

3. Life happens. People change day to day, alters are people, they change. And like people, they occasionally need a break.

4. Got me. Could never get Frank to write $#%^. "You woulda been too freaked out" says he. If certain alters only come out during weird times, you have to stay awake and wait for them to come out and catch them off guard. Then chat it up! Maybe, eventually (Like Frank), they'll stop coming out during these hours and become co-concious with you (awake when you are too)

Mr. Bates wrote:Oh boy, a lot to tackle.

1. Yes, been there done that. Sometimes you feel things when they know something you don't because a certain situation reminds them of an old memory or something.

2. They're seperate people sharing one body, hell yes they can turn a TV off or change a channel. And plenty of alters will get up when you're asleep.

3. Life happens. People change day to day, alters are people, they change. And like people, they occasionally need a break.

4. Got me. Could never get Frank to write $#%^. "You woulda been too freaked out" says he. If certain alters only come out during weird times, you have to stay awake and wait for them to come out and catch them off guard. Then chat it up! Maybe, eventually (Like Frank), they'll stop coming out during these hours and become co-concious with you (awake when you are too)

Yeah, sorry. I always have so much trouble keeping what I write, short. Oddly enough, I'm so quiet, in real life.

Thanks so much for the answers! I really appreciate it About the last one: I'm always up at different times. I've been up during every hour there is, and don't think I've noticed anything too different *shrugs*

Can't be awake awake, sort of have to be in a catatonic state. You have to trick your body into sleeping but keeping your mind awake. Basically deep meditating to allow alters to see the opportunity to come out.

Mr. Bates wrote:Can't be awake awake, sort of have to be in a catatonic state. You have to trick your body into sleeping but keeping your mind awake. Basically deep meditating to allow alters to see the opportunity to come out.

Oh, okay That makes sense. I'll try that. Thanks

My kids are more awake during the nighttime.
There is a reason for that in my system but it's not uncommon I've heard for there to be a nighttime 'alter'.
I personally don't like the word alter, which I why I call mine kids.

I've woken up to find scribbles and writing on my arms and stuff misplaced, and lots of questionable bruising.
I personally think the reason why I get bruises is because the kids don't realize they're in an adult body and
don't realize how long my legs are and bump into things.

I find it easiest to talk to my kids if I'm lying in my bed (my bed has always been a safe place for me when I was young)
it's good for you to find a safe place, relax, clear your mind, and invite them to talk, or to ask who has been doing
such and such. Sometimes they don't write notes back. It's possible they're too young to write, but they might
be able to talk to you!

broken_mirror wrote:My kids are more awake during the nighttime.
There is a reason for that in my system but it's not uncommon I've heard for there to be a nighttime 'alter'.
I personally don't like the word alter, which I why I call mine kids.

I've woken up to find scribbles and writing on my arms and stuff misplaced, and lots of questionable bruising.
I personally think the reason why I get bruises is because the kids don't realize they're in an adult body and
don't realize how long my legs are and bump into things.

I find it easiest to talk to my kids if I'm lying in my bed (my bed has always been a safe place for me when I was young)
it's good for you to find a safe place, relax, clear your mind, and invite them to talk, or to ask who has been doing
such and such. Sometimes they don't write notes back. It's possible they're too young to write, but they might
be able to talk to you!

That would definitely explain the bruises. It would be weird being like 5, and having an adult body

I'm still new to accepting this, and it makes me kind of nervous, sometimes. And when I get too nervous, it makes it hard for me to talk to anyone in there (like I'm half trying to pretend it's not happening... I know that's horrible )... me and my nerves But I will try to calm down and see if anyone else will talk to me. Thanks for the advice

canolime wrote:I hope it's okay to ask

1) Is it possible to feel very strong emotions from alters, as if they're your own? I know I can sort of feel what they feel, but this is more than that. Sometimes I get a sudden burst of some kind of emotion, but it doesn't seem like I should be having those emotions. Like a few days ago, I was walking back from getting food, and all of a sudden, I was hit with an insecure feeling... like when you're a little kid, and get scared, and then just want to be held real tight. And while walking outside, alone, does make me nervous, it shouldn't have caused anything like that And since I was 6, I've had times where I get a burst of feeling furious, for no reason at all. However, during those times, I'm still in control of my movements and speech... so... is that possible?

I get this feeling often. It's distressing because I know it's a memory that I don't have but I can still sort of remember the emotions associated with the memory. I recently found out that my alter can transfer their emotions to me if thry're strong enough and sometimes the simplest things like a smell or a certain lighting will bring on this feeling. The worst one I have comes in the afternoons when it's cool and I'm outside. It makes me feel really afraid and I cry. If you're lucky, whichever alter has the original of these emotions will help you back from it.

neveralone wrote:

canolime wrote:I hope it's okay to ask

1) Is it possible to feel very strong emotions from alters, as if they're your own? I know I can sort of feel what they feel, but this is more than that. Sometimes I get a sudden burst of some kind of emotion, but it doesn't seem like I should be having those emotions. Like a few days ago, I was walking back from getting food, and all of a sudden, I was hit with an insecure feeling... like when you're a little kid, and get scared, and then just want to be held real tight. And while walking outside, alone, does make me nervous, it shouldn't have caused anything like that And since I was 6, I've had times where I get a burst of feeling furious, for no reason at all. However, during those times, I'm still in control of my movements and speech... so... is that possible?

I get this feeling often. It's distressing because I know it's a memory that I don't have but I can still sort of remember the emotions associated with the memory. I recently found out that my alter can transfer their emotions to me if thry're strong enough and sometimes the simplest things like a smell or a certain lighting will bring on this feeling. The worst one I have comes in the afternoons when it's cool and I'm outside. It makes me feel really afraid and I cry.

It is a little unsettling
Oh, that stinks But I guess (in a way ) it's better to not know exactly what's causing it... at least if there's no current danger.

neveralone wrote:If you're lucky, whichever alter has the original of these emotions will help you back from it.

Okay, cool I'm not even sure who the insecure feeling is coming from

Thank you

In my system we can all feel each others emotions in some way. No sudden outbursts, just long consistent feelings from the others. I, Jef, cannot feel a lot of things most humans including the others can, so instead I get the bodily responses which I try to ignore like a headache. Most emotions I don't understand make me feel physically uncomfortable.

Jef