Hello there....

My name is Lilly. Seventeen (almost eighteen), senior in HS, graduating in a couple weeks. Hooray. So I'm the primary, first born, etc whatever I'm supposed to be called, haha.

So to sum it up, there are... *counts* NINE of us, including myself. (Yikes, wow, I hadn't really counted, haha). My alters do not yet trust anyone here, seeing as we're entirely new to this forum... But perhaps we will warm up to it, yeah?

I've got a problem I'm dealing with right now, though. My boyfriend also has alters (intense, I know). I've only met three of them: One is a pervert and in love with me (yay?), the next is a wise and insightful girl, and the last is a dominatrix; she completely wants to control EVERYTHING about me.

Sooo.... a little something happened last night. My boyfriend was over and we were talking, and then he shifted into the dominatrix. The dominatrix pinned me to the floor of my bedroom and started taking advantage of me. I've got an inflamed rib on my left side, and when I tried to struggle, she squeezed at it (that was NOT fun. :/). I kept defying and defying until she wouldn't take it anymore, and she just smacked me. Hard. My vision got blurry, my head was fuzzy and I almost passed out.

When my boyfriend shifted back, I started crying. What you need to understand is that my boyfriend is NOT a violent person; he's the sweetest man I've ever known, and I do know him; we've been friends since we were twelve. I wasn't crying because it had hurt, but because I was in shock.

Comments? Help? Lol. My other friend said to wait it out, find out more about her... but my boyfriend knows nothing about his alters. He's kept them locked up for seventeen years, making sure that HE was in control, which caused his emotions to react in terrible ways... So we decided to explore, release, help...

So this is me venting. xD Help would be nice, but it's not necessary. Hopefully we can feel comfortable on this forum and open up a little bit more about ourselves, yeah?

;]

-L<3

well first, welcome to the forums we are only here to help you whether you like it or not lol.
second, im 14 and im in complete control of my 3 other alters (ull prob meet them eventually ) ive never gone to therapy but i might want to look into it for your boyfriend tho he needs to learn how to control his alters and stop them from hurting you

u also need to take a stand against them, i kow theres nothing much you can do physically but try to talk to them normally you should know that each alter is like a different person so you need to treat them like one. figure out what each one likes or dislikes try to calm the violent one down and dont give into her she needs to learn that she cant get whats she wants

hope it helps

Victoria, Rozalina, Vitya, and our newest member Mai

Hello Shards, welcome.
I'm 49, my host is 24, personally we have over 70 alters in here and there are over 30 that can take control.
If your boyfriend has an abusive alter give him the same advice that we were given. Lock them up. My brother wasn't so nice ad he now lives in a cell in the back of our mind. This dominatrix can't hurt anyone if they can't get control.
Before resorting to that though I would suggest trying to talk to them and find out why they want to hurt you. James.

I agree with James. Talk to her, if all else fails, she'll need locking up.

-Kerry

Your boyfriend seems to have a very unstable system. Are all his alters dangerous? Sometimes certain alters need to be out to feel their emotions or stay in so that the others can deal with those emotions. My system is somewhat transparent emotionally. Emotions can flow from one of us to the active one. Recently we just got over Jef's cravings. He's a masochist which causes our body chemistry to get screwed up. I've also dealt with Freud's cravings. He's a sadist, but has never been out and solely fantasizes. I don't have to worry about either abusing anyone because Jef's dominant and Freud is submissive. These events don't happen too often, but I get really moody when they do and they can last a while. Last time Jef had to completely drain his endorphins with very long and exhausting excursive to get over his feelings.

I have only 3 others in my system including my host, but I've read through these forum and it doesn't seem uncommon for people to have dozens of alters. We only trust people here because of the anonymity of the internet in private mode to be sure. I'm also 17, junior, so I have another year.

Lacaan

Goodness. I go through her emails and she's posting stuff about us online. Lovely.

Anyway. My name is Raine. Introducing myself; I'm 22, British, and one of her original alters. She likes to consider me the voice of reason.

From what I've gathered, her boyfriend's dominatrix has gotten soft. Miss (our... primary? I guess. We all call her Miss) had an... encounter, if you will, with the dom. And now they're on good terms.

So i guess that problem is solved, yes? Ahaha.

-Raine

im one of Victorias alters Mai i just got the power to be able to come front i help out around the system and make sure everythings ok with everybody

but im happy that you and your boyfriends alter were able to work things out may i ask how you did it or do you not want to tell, im still getting used to this world and am just curious

Glad to hear you've worked things out. I guess Lac's my voice of reason.

On a side note I wonder how unlikely it is for both you and your boyfriend to have alters. Also how being a different age especially older than the main works.