Protectors gone!

Hey Guys! I'm in an awkward situation right now and don't know how to handle this.
My girfriends 'Inner child' Zoe, who has always been protected by 3 other dissociative personalities has reached an awareness last week, of how she is a part of many. The others were supposed to protect her from anything evil, which is why they kept her pretty much locked up most of the time. Now suddenly that their job has 'failed' and Zoe perceives the world in a wider context, the others seem suddenly gone and don't even appear when we ask them to. The main problem with this is at the moment that my girlfriend has kids to raise and other things to do, of which zoe doesn't even know how to. She is still pretty small and vulnerable and very distressed from not being protected at the moment and being 'alone'. She has never been out for that long at a time (its been 3 days now). I am really concerned that the others don't come back in time or even that they won't be back at all! Please, can someone tell me whats happening here! Is it possible to imagine that the others are just gone, now they are in a way not protecting Zoe from the outside world anymore?

hi,i doubt theyre gone for good,sometimes mine dissapear for a while,which i admit totally throws me into panic.but they do seem to come back.just not when i'd like them too.i know its not much help to you,hope they reappear for you both soon.

Ditto, occasionally the others in my system leave for a day or two especially when their under stress. You will need to take care of your girlfriend during this time and make sure she isn't under any stress.

During my birth I was all alone without my host or his other alters for 3 months, but they eventually all came back.

Jef

Thanks to you. This reassures me a bit. The problem is really that this is a whole new situation for her, and this without her alters. She has never been in charge before. She also just begins to understand the world around here and notices that also bad things happen out there. She was always save from even just bad thoughts. I'm quite sure their're gone at the moment as well for not having protected her from the experience of bad thoughts, although I suppose they just need time to readjust, after all, protecting zoe was their actual purpose. I'm still very concerned. Was it maybe better for her to live in her little bubble? She was at least happy there. Now, in a completely new world, without even any support from inside, she's not anymore!

I used to think it was best if my little girl never ever woke up.
So did everyone else in the system.
I believe she woke up once or twice
but I don't really remember much if anything other than finding the stuff on the fridge
playfully placed upside down.
It can be a huge shock to the system when a little one wakes up.
However, it can also be a sign that things are getting better.
It could be that they're testing the grounds to see if she'll be safe.

If it helps, every time I figure my kids are gone for good they're always around sooner or later.
I always fool myself into believing I never had this to begin with (my sweetheart knows better) but pop,
there they are.
They're always around, and always will be, because they're actually parts of us.
So they're not gone. No worries. They're somewhere!

Hi Broken-Mirror,

She actually has been about more or less regularly. She even had her own Myspace site and so on. The rest of the system always insisted on limiting her to that. I feel like its kind of my fault, cause I always pledged that she should be able to florish and lead a self-determined life. I thought this was a good thing for the whole system. Anyways, recently she started reading things and become more and more aware (I havn't said anything!). And then pow, she realised that if I cheated on her host, I also cheated on her. More my fault. This was when she, for the first time, felt really crappy, with all of a sudden no one coming to protect her. So, there we are. There still not back, and although she managed stuff with her hosts kids today and actually had fun with that, she doesn't want to be there, and surely doesn't want the #######5 feelings she feels now al of a sudden. I would really appreciate further posts. (Could I maybe try to trigger them). I should mention again that the host along with both other Alters are gone.

The system usually knows best in terms of what the little ones are capable of handling at any given time.
There's a reason they're so protected.
Maybe she went a little too far in terms of what she was able to handle at the moment.

I'm not sure triggering the others to try and make them come out is a good idea.
I know personally that forcing triggers is really not good, at least for me.
I realize it's hard but you'll probably have to be patient.

Does she have a therapist? Is she safe?
My brain is fuzzing out right now, so I can't type anymore.

She's not in therapy. Yesterday she went to get her meds and the therapist asked her all sorts of inappropriate questions. She also perceived very negative personality traits (and she's really good at that). Apart from that she's at home with her Ex-husband (who doen't know anything) and the kids: No, she's not in a properly safe environmenmt. I think she got thrown in a stupid situation this time by accident. The rest of the system would never have approved! Still no sign of anyone!

Its really scary to me, our littles are really vulnerable. Jonathan (J) is quite confident now, but it took a while to get him like that. Kaia is also getting more confident, but to leave them both out unsupervised scares me senseless! J comes out whenever he wants, & plays with Mara's partner's little brother & sister, he draws with her partner & stuff, but he's never alone.

We've accidentally 'detached' frm others before & lost communications, could she have accidentally done that? Can you possibly teach her to meditate? We don't do it, but I know of multiples who use meditation to find each other/clear their minds. Maybe if you could get her to clear her mind & just relax, it may help her find them without rly searching?

- Kerry

Thanks for the tip! Zoe is old enough to leave her unsupervised, but not to carry out any resonsibilities (although she's done really well - I'm real proud of her). Still, the other ones would not ever leave her alone, let alone give her the responsibility to look after the biological children completely (Miri - the host is more mother than anything else - this is what concerns me so much. She'd never jeopardise their well-being. I tried to trigger her by saying, that if she's not back soon, her Ex is gonna take the opportunity to take the kids. Then Zoe felt really dizzy and nearly fainted - can Miri maybe not get out??). Anyway, Finally tomorrow she's gonna be able to come to me. Already itending to meditate with her. Also gonna try to establish a 'safe place' for Zoe (hasn't worked in her last theraphy, but I've got an idea) and work from there to built one of these wee houses near that place, or just somehow establish some kind of space, to give her a concept of where to look. Maybe we're able to find them that way. If I just had any idea of whats actually going on...