Do alters choose?

Just wondered, can an alter actually choose not to be co-consious? Will elaborate later.

Your question is a little vague.

My alter Jay can be co-conscious or completely in control, actually he seems to have a few different levels of consciousness at his own free will. He choses the appropriate amount of consciousness during the day. I let him have his own free time.

My alter Kami is not quite as advanced in how much control she takes. So far her triggers are being teased and if she thinks there is someone that is going to harm me. She is slowly learning to be more like Jay with her control.

Sabastien only comes around when we are completely alone. He seldom chooses to be co-conscious though I know he can do that. He rarely comes around and mostly keeps Jay company from the inside. He is not very social. I think he needs more friends. Oh and sometimes when I'm not around he and Jay share co-consciousness which is new to me.

Thats is for my adult active alters.

Sorry my question was unclear, I was mid doing something and just needed to ask... one of those moments.

Me & my main adult alter, Kerry, have been co-conscious for years. We've always been extremely close, she's been like a big sister to me forever really.

Anyways, she left me a note saying she'll be "sleeping" for a long time, and she doesn't wanna come out anymore, and I'm wondering if she's severed the link of being co-conscious.

I feel really weird - abandoned almost, and all the order we worked so long for in our system has completed fallen apart. Jonathan (my little) won't stop crying no matter what I do and to be honest, I've never felt more broken. I miss her.

What can i do? HELP?!

Thats a tough one. You alter had to have left for a certain reason. Do you have any other adult alters? If so send them to search for her to ask her why she is leaving. If you find any way to communicate with her you should find out why she wished to leave. Is there anything that has happened recently to make her want to leave? You can try writing a letter about how you feel and read it back to your self and try to keep it deep inside when you read it so maybe she will hear it? I've done that before and it has worked for me. Other then that I'm not sure what else you can do.

Well they're like people, so yes. People come and go and choose who they talk to and who they don't talk to.

Mr. Bates is right, people have a choice if they want to leave if thats what they want.

I can imagine how weird you feel, abandoned indeed, broken. I think you are right, and she is chosing not to come out, which is a way of severing the link of being co-conscious.
Do you have any idea why she might have chosen to do this? Can you maybe just take some time to see if there is any remote way she could let you know why?

She was just throwing a tantrum... All is ok on looney lane again - well between us 2 anyway. Our little is struggling at the mo, but that's an issue onto itself. x