Do/Can alters go back into hiding?

So, my husband found out that I was chatting with other men online, although there was nothing for him to be worried about, he felt betrayed. He(they or someone) doesn't like to "share" me with others, not even my female friends....he has a real issue with it. But since then, he has shut down. I know the others are still there when he looks different, acts differently or responds in a way that doesn't fit the circumstance. Any how, it seems as if they have blended in and it's extremely difficult to tell when/if someone is out. More importantly, it's causing my husband to continue to be in denial and it's starting to make me feel like everything we have learned within the past year and a half wasn't DID, but maybe some other disorder.

So, what's going on, are they in hiding? Does this happen one they are out?

(btw, if I try to explain to my husband the conversations with others or why it was necessary for my sanity, he refuses to hear it. He doesn't care. He's mean, cold and angry. He doesn't trust me at all and I am afraid he/they won't be able to ever again)

Yes, they can absolutely go "into hiding", or more accurately (at least in my system) they just kind of go to sleep. An alter of a friend of mine, whom I asked about this, said it's like a hibernation.

-Leigh

One of the others feels as though they were more held back, rather than in hiding. So she was still there in the background, but wasn't allowed to come out. It took the right circumstances to change that.

Like Twilight i have a few alters who have just "gone to sleep" and cannot wake up until something makes them. This happened after I was attacked at my university.

So maybe if you feel you are threatened by your husband the alters will do what they need to, in order to protect the system.

Although it sounds backwards that by going into hiding they are protecting, it is all in the name of self preservation.

Thank you all for posting, your comments were really helpful. I figured that they went back in because they felt betrayed by me and didn't feel they could trust me anymore. So, they aren't willing to open up and share info about the system or share themselves with me. But, I know, as always, it's just a matter of time where someone will come up front to get some attention....and normally that attention is negative and/or sex related .

Can they ever trust someone they feel has betrayed them?

trust is just another thing to work on..can be lost and found with alters, just as it can be with everyone else so im sure with the right situations and explanations, it can all be resolved.