Stress = switches?

I want the eyes of a child again.

Yes, that's it exactly. Precisely how I feel. I want the heart and the eyes of a child again, with the wise mind of an adult. I want the blending of the two. I want innocence and wisdom both residing in me. Thanks for the words.

Lifesong

It doesn't take much for a switch to occur with us either. Sometimes at work I switch because sometimes it is easier for a little one to talk to the kids that I work with, and then the whole thing has to be told to me so I can deal with the situations.

But whatever works for you, so that your life can be as normal as possible, is fine. Find what works and stick to it, soon you will find it is not as difficult to do as it once was.

Have you made a "safe place" for your younger ones? Sometimes you can schedule "time out" for your younger ones so that they can play at a certain hour, and then they go to their "safe place" where they're not overwhelmed by everything that's going on. That would allow you to partake in your more adult-oriented social activities.

Or you can just say that you're trying to simplify your life because you're finding yourself over-committed and overwhelmed.

Well i can't speak for everyone but we have a safe place for littles, as well as scheduled time and activities, but it doesn't prevent all switching, just switching at inappropriate times, like coming out in the middle of class to sit on the floor clap hands and sing a song...

thank you Amber and Fragmentization,

For me, it has been just too hard of late, so hiding out at home has been easier. My t referred to my switching as choosing to speak in a younger voice recently, he did apologise for it and said it was a wrong choice of words and that he was trying to explain something very difficult to someone else. I accepted his apology and explanation, but it did get me to thinking maybe my switching is a choice, so i challenged it, in a very stressful situation decided only an adult part could speak. Inspite of my best efforts it did nt work. My switching has never been a choice, its so involuntary and sudden it is nt possible there is a choice. My subconscious clearly is making a choice every time it happens but that does nt mean my conscious thought is involved, it simply is nt.

Anyhow with my system thrown into chaos with my dad being sick and needing surgery, my doggy not being well, an anti social new neighbour and my ex bfy suddenly not being the very great support he used to be, things are difficult. Staying safe at home and just coping with those feelings seems enough. When am out the stress of all the above comes out and then i switch .

The safe place is my bed , surrounded by my toy bears and just hugging them so tight. wanting the bigger world to dissappear right now.

gentle hugs to all
julia