spouse of DID person(s). need advice

Leftbehind,

thank you for sharing so much and being so open about what sounds like a really hurtful situation.

if its ok to ask? How come you are certain your wife has DID? are you a health care professional? Has she been officially diagnosed? If neither are true, am wondering how, if you live outside any kind of mental health world, you would think this were the most likely illness behind your wifes behaviour?

Sorry to come in late and ask questions you may already have answered, but it is important with something like DID not to dive in and assume everything is true or happening to your wife. Hope that makes sense and hopefully in time you will find someone to confirm your fears.

Otherwise am thinking any kind of discussion about this with her may well end up badly for you. Terribly for her, with little progress being made. DID takes a long time for therapist or pdocs to diagnose , so would consider that route for confirmation and support.

take care
Julia

Jorja wrote:if its ok to ask? How come you are certain your wife has DID?

I think that, after I had conversations with the alter, discussing "she feels like..." talking about the other part of her, and her trying to make bargains that "you can be with 'her', if you let me..." that it's safe to say she has DID


Not to mention that at other times in the past, she has flipped, and actually asked me to "give her a name", while we were having sex.
No, this wasnt some kind of interesting sexual "game". It was clear she was in a blackout state, when she was asking me that question. It happened multiple times. I did not choose to give 'her' a new name, that I remember.

plus other things. too many to even remember all of them.

Leftbehind,

Thank you for your reply, it is hard to imagine how you have coped so well and for so long with such behaviour, knowing your wife needs help.

What ways have you tried to get her to seek help already? Maybe we can suggest something you have nt thought of ? Sometimes it is hard to know what to do for the best when in such termoil yourself.

All i can say is, how sorry i am you are going through this and keep posting. Somehow something may click which helps you help her.

Go well

Jorja