Lock Down?

I just read a post about locking an alter down. With my son, I feel there may just be one that needs something like this (the one that keeps stealing the car). Can anyone give me any advise or point me toward any websites that might help him to understand and work on himself. He does read these post and I've promised him a day to ourselves, tomorrow and we're going to talk. Different alters are coming out and I told him that is progress. If they trust me enough to share their secrets and even anger with me, that's progress. To him, he doesn't like it, he feels he's losing his mind. He doesn't like them taking over and messing up his life. I used to blame Kinfolk, but he and I talk regularly now and he tells me he trust me. So out pops an alter and when I asked if he had a name he replied "I don't need no introduction" (lots of attitude with that line). Now, I'm wondering if he's not the coke snorting, beer drinking, car thief? But right now, he says he don't know me, he don't like me, he don't like no one and no one likes him and that's the way he likes it. Lots of anger. So, I'd be happy if anyone would share any information they may have that may help.

Hugs and/or stardust
Pam

Hi Pamela,

The progress you're making with Matt and alters is rapid, but intense. I can imagine that takes its toll! Still, considering the way things are proceeding, I wouldn't perceive lock-down as an option just yet. The circumstances in which this alter is operating are quite extreme, which is worrisome because of possible judicial consequences in which DID won't be taken into consideration, so I can understand your thinking about it. But nonetheless, this alter has actually talked to you, even if it is with resent, there is curiosity, something's dragging the alter to you despite what he's saying. That's a good sign.

Still, I can understand it might become unavoidable, so about lockdown: with DID there's often a visualized inner world to which alters retreat. With lockdown, you 'imagine' a place that would be suitable to said alter (it does need to be somewhat safe for said alter, he/she has a reason to be around and shouldn't feel cast aside too much, 'cause he/she will still be important and need to be worked with in the future), and you 'put' the alter there and heavily lock the room in your mind. You can even let alters guard if that's possible.

I hope Matt can get therapy and be open to it sometime soon,
take care and good work!,
Nindy

therapy does sound like a good idea. maybe he or you, could ask Bates some questions since he is a young man, and has gone through a lot of the same things.