Question about sleep

i agree, you need to get help for yourself too. that is too much to deal with alone. it's a good idea to seek out local help.
matt needs to learn how to take care of himself! if that means jail, so be it. he has to get control of his own actions, and deal with the feelings constructively.
i got my start in AA. alcoholism is a very common trait in people with D.I.D. most therapists will not treat someone that is under the influence of alcohol or illegal drug. it wouldn't do much good, even if they did.

12 step programs are very good at getting someone headed in the right direction. you begin with a firm foundation of recovery, and then learn tools to help you deal with all of the other crap life throws at you. they also treat it as a family disease. i can guaranty you that i wouldn't have made it if i hadn't sobered up and sought help. matt won't either if he doesn't.

there is only so much you can do. you can't "make" him do something he doesn't want to do. but you can provide a way for him to help himself. he needs to stop seeing himself as a victim, and start being grateful for what he has now. he is a grown man, and needs to take responsibility for his own actions. if he doesn't he will keep himself a victim. i'm not saying it's easy, and it is hard to find anyone that "really" knows how to treat D.I.D. but don't let it stop you.

i keep telling myself (i think he would relate), what "they" did to us was horribly, horribly wrong, we are not responsible for that. i thank God every morning i am not like "them", nor do i ever want to be. today, i am responsible for what i do, or who i may hurt. most of all i refuse to let "them" take any more from me! i deserve a better life and i'll be damned, if i allow "them" to keep me from it! that would be tragic.

benny

ps. i am going to leave you a message if i can. you might be surprised.

Good For You That is the attitude I like to see! I believe you can accomplish/overcome/reconquer anything, it's all in the attitude and in the belief you can do it! I don't care who you are or where you come from or what you've gone through (no disrespect), you can be great!! And the fact that you are breaking a cycle that's been going on for no telling how many years/decades/centuries make you even greater!! I believe we are all born with an inner sense of right and wrong. Some ppl chose to just accept the brain washing of their abuser and continue the cycle, but then there are those special people, that no matter how much they go through, realize something with the situation isn't right, no matter what their taught. That's true strength!

I admire all of the survivors, here! And appreciate all the help you've all given to me. Matt's gone until tomorrow, hope all is well, but he's grown! As all 18 year olds are.

I have an appointment with a therapist on Monday. I think this place will be pretty good. I have a friend that goes there and when I went to pick up my daughter from her house the other day, the counseling supervisor was at her house, checking on her, since she'd not been into the clinic for the last 2 months! A Place that cares enough to make house calls???? I've got to check this place out!

Matt's still not interested in counseling. Well, Matt says he is, but someone else says no, that they can just talk to me. Therefore, I've got some question I'll be posting soon asking about "grounding".

Thanks so much for your help
Pam