wow things are looking up

so theres this girl i know, she recently found out im DID, and she actually isnt phased by it. i really think shes starting to fall for me and me for her. but shes the most supportive person ive found on this, and she had a really unique idea that really showed me that she is serious. she said that her idea of having a serious relationship with a DID person is to get to know each alter on a personal level...anyone else ive come across just says "well wanna talk about it?" or "are you you yet?" this girl is the first person i've ever met that is actually interested in being involved with us. it really makes me happy and jack is currently giving me a million "i told you so"s.

only hitch is she lives a state away, and we know each other via the internet only. however we are allready having talks of meeting up in person sometime in the near future. im cautiously optimistic just because i dont want to get hurt, and i know that most people are different online than they are offline. but it just gives me a big old smile for once to hear someone interested in getting to know us rather than just me

oh and sorry i havent been aorund much guys! since i moved back in with the parents for a short time i've been studying for my apple certifications like nobodys business. i aim to get certified and then find a good job somewhere working as a mac tech

<3 to all from john, jack, and carn!

Hi, I'm new here, but I'd like to share something with you. Most of the people that I've known with DID, already knew of their diagnosis before we met. Now I have a son that's 18 that came into our lives about 4 years ago. I suspected he was DID. I'd heard enough details from his foster mother about his childhood and knew he more than likely was DID. What I didn't realize is that so many of his friends KNEW. I found out the name of one of his main alters from one of his friends. He flat told me that he knew Matt and he knew Kinfolk. I thought, Okay, this is one of his oldest friends, he's seen the things I've seen and he's figured it out over the years, but after talking to other friends, they knew of the 2 different personalities that Matt shows and they were cool with it, didn't think he was crazy, just that there were two Matt's (more than likely more than 2, but 2 is all I have names for at the moment).

I guess what I'm trying to say is congrats on meeting the girl, but don't be so surprised! I know there are a lot of people out there with trust issues, but there are those out there that recognize and it and are willing to do what it takes to try to understand and work at the relationship. Even with Matt's ex-girlfriend, she knew. She knew that Matt loved her, she knew that Kinfolk had no time or use for her, he was into "kickin' it wit his boyz" & rapping. So, when Kinfolk was having his time out, she'd go out with her friends. The new girlfriend... no too sure how she's fairing, but she is talking with my 16 yr old daughter, that is a super smart, great kid, who is well educated and has experience with people with DID. She grew up playing Barbie's with a good friend's little and even at a young age, she knew when she was playing dolls, it was "Berry" a little girl, but other times, she was "Ms. X" who was Mommy's friend that moved in with us during her divorce (and during the time she was being diagnosed as DID.)

To me, it's like the ignorance that has always been around with mental disorders is finally getting some light shed on it. More people are publicly coming out DID & other issues, more stuff is out there in main stream media that I hope is dispelling the old ideas, like "these people must be possessed with Demons" or "just plain crazy". I have never met a kid as smart and charismatic as Matt. He is a well behaved young man. He loves school and he is not crazy. Nor are the others inside of him. They are who they are, because that's who was needed to cope. And I realize that not everyone in a persons system will like me! I was convinced Kinfolk hated me because I was "the mother figure", but last night, he told me that he was the one that first wanted to come and live here. I was amazed and touched.

I know it's hard to trust people, because we all know there are some pretty sucky people out there, but if you find someone you trust, give the relationship a chance. We may me single minded, but there is unconditional love out there and everyone deserves to experience it.

way to go john. she sounds like a winner!
best of wishes,
benny

Sounds great John!!

heh thanks guys ill make sure to keep you updated on how things go