Alter had an affair, dealing with the aftermath

The other woman doesn't know he's DID. I have been in my own therapy for years learning about what I'm trying to cope with in him, and also trying to unravel the things it triggers in me. He, unfortunately, had started going to therapy, and we actually even went together, but that's when he had this current hard switch to this teen alter who's carrying on this affair, and he hasn't been back to therapy since.

This alter also thinks he is the only one. Apparently, the others are in hiding. I can't get close to anyone because the Protector alter is out of control and keeps me away.

I'm just in the background, watching from a distance, trying to walk through his storm.

Moon

I see. His system is having a massive fit of denial. It could go on for years. This is so difficult. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost, and that may mean moving on.

I love him...I'll probably continue to watch from the background and keep hoping in faith that he'll switch back around and want to face the truth of his situation.

The other part of him (the other host) very much wanted to get help. The Protector blocked him, and now this teen decided I was the problem, and if he got rid of me, he would get rid of my "crazy ideas" that he is more than one.

I'm just watching.

Moon

Una+ wrote:Most people seem unable to imagine what it is like to be a multiple. I have tried explaining how frightening it was for me to "come to" and find myself naked in bed with some guy. They usually say well you must have liked him well enough to get into bed with him in the first place. Um, no.

On another forum is a thread related to this experience (link below). The husband "Dead M" thought his wife chose to have a one night stand with a co-worker, then had a fit of remorse. At first Dead M rejected her. However, it turns out she was the victim of a serial rapist who eventually confessed to drugging her.

SurvivingInfidelity.com: Don't know what to do

Well, that's quite different! The hard thing here, with DID, is that the part I know and had a six year relationship with, may or may NOT have anything to do with this other part that's carrying on this affair. It makes it so much harder to understand when there's more than one alter in a body, and there's no way for me to know how much the man I loved is in on this new thing, or not.

This teen alter is the system's other host. It's like he tolerated me for a while over the years, and then wanted his own thing.

Moon