So, would someone who developed DID because...

physically or emotional abused, have a sex addicted alter? Or are sex addicted alters mainly found in those who were sexually abused?

My guess is sexual abuse. But who knows, alters come from a lot of things.

Trying to narrow down how your husband was abused?

Hey Bates,

Yes I trying desperately to help him figure this out. I am making sure we are looking in the wrong area. But, I just found out that my husband's father has molested 1 out of his 10 children and raped another when she was a child. So, I am sure that he has done this to more of them, I just haven't found them yet. I don't know. I know that there was a lot of distance between him and his mother and his parent divorced when he was 5, but I don't think that's what caused the DID. Also, I feel like I am working harder at it then he is. He comes to me and ask me questions because he doesn't read the books or come to the forums. If I try to get him to come, or read them, he "never has time". I am trying hard here.

one alter came from attempted suicide
the other from parts unknown, a combination of abuse, beatings, and dehumanization from the world around me.

alters come from many places, hard to tell.

Well, I was sexually harrassed, NOT abused, jsut harrassed, and as such I have a fair few alters with various attitudes towards the subject. Example, I don't care for it much, but others are extremely powerful sexually, and some do things I couldn't bring myself to, and some are asexual.
For one, she can only enjoy sexual activity when she's not the one in control, I think this is because she wouldn't be able to handle it if she was the one making the situation happen, actively doing such things.
I like to imagine we're all nice people, and god I know I'd never be disloyal or do horrible, slutty things, but there is one who always ends up f*cking things up for us, sexually active and so on.

So I reckon that alters can be sexually-active or addicted to sex no matter what form of abuse they've been under.
I'm not quite sure where to draw the line between abuse and harassment, ah I dunno, but I hope you figure out things with your husband soon!

You wrote somewhere about your husband being sit down to watch porn at the age of four, and now you're also writing this about his father; I hope I'm not too blunt in saying that the cause in your husband's case is pretty clear-cut ..




Regarding what kind of abuse creates a sexual alter; any kind of abuse that hits on something sexual when the victim is still a child can be the cause, as long as something sexually provoking occurred. This can be harassment, this can be someone who's been physically abused but has been so 'certain places' nonetheless, this can be extreme bullying in which certain comments are placed or actions undertaken, this can be blunt sexual abuse, this can be having seen certain things, having been told certain things.. it can be any kind of abuse (in combination with lack of help and guidance) on the whole, bút it doesn't happen without a sexual factor. It is possible for this to just be a one-time thing which the child is extremely sensitive to, but there has to be something in that direction for such an alter to form.

i went through verbal, phyical, and sexual abuse. medical records show evidence of sex abuse as far back as 10 mo. old. i came close to dying several times when my step father intentionally tried to kill me. i didn't like the sexual "feelings" so i fought hard to put an end to them. i didn't want to be like "them". i never initiate sex. i'm hetero and/or asexual. i have found that thoses with a sexual addition are much more likely to repeat the behavior, and become a sexual preditor. so be careful.