New Alter? I'm freaking out

I posted on the NOS sub but someone said I'd be better off posting here though I suspect OSDD.

I posted a few days ago and this post I unrelated to that but I think it might have stirred some things up. Something triggered us and I was in a lot of distress suddenly, this new alter pops out and is very confused. It took them a minute to realise where they were, what was happening. From voice recordings they made, I can tell they were very confused, upset, and kept asking to go back. They said "I'm not supposed to be here" and "I want to go back" and were very disorientated.

She kept trying to talk to Cara, a person inside who kind of runs things? I'm not sure what she does. But this alter ( who I now know has called herself Molly) was asking Cara to help her go back inside, I guess.

She just kept laying in bed staring at the ceiling after she calmed down. She said that she doesn't know what to do or who she is.

This is the first time I've ever met this alter, I'm not sure if she's new though because Cara knows her. But I can't ask Cara, she doesn't really talk to me.

It's just kind of freaking me out because I thought I knew everybody. I've been told about people I haven't met and I've met some others, but this person is new to me. And if she's been around and I didn't know her until now, what else don't I know? What are they keeping from me?

I'm really knew at all this stuff. Thought I've known about some of them for years, I've been in heavy denial, still am, really. I've been pushing them away, ignoring them. Only recently have I begun to talk about them or attempt to talk properly to them.

Idk, I'm pretty shaken. Being triggered is bad enough without all of this. Any advice for what to do? Should I be trying to like get to know this alter or something? I feel sorry for her, I mean it seems like she had a hard time from the voice messages abd stuff, but idk what I'm supposed to do about all this.

Hi. Welcome to the forum.

Sure--trying to get to know each other is pretty much always a good idea. Try to talk to her, but it's also important to go slow and try to avoid overwhelming yourself.

There's a concept called the phobia of inner experience. It basically means that our initial reaction to anything going on in our minds is fear and avoidance. It's a long, slow process to overcome that and to try to be curious and accepting of whatever is going on in our minds. We were able to initially become aware of each other because we saw a therapist who modeled that kind of attitude--calm, curious, and accepting of whatever feelings and thoughts were occurring.

This forum is a great place to find support and advice, although it's more quiet than it used to be.

Hi

I found myself at the front unexpectedly recently, but the last host had disappeared.

In my case there is one other who I feel was inside with me for years and another I think knows more than they are letting on but maybe they are trying to protect me from something I wouldn’t be ready for yet. Still they have both looked after me but it was very confusing initially I felt very anxious.

I bet Molly is also feeling very confused and anxious right now too and wondering why she’s at the front and who you are?

Staring at a wall or ceiling (or sitting/laying with eyes closed) are often a way to clear the mind and trying to visualise finding your way back inside. can she hear you if you talk to her?

The two also out with me whispered to me gently and I realised I remembered their voices from being inside too.

Could you just leave a message for Cara …maybe even something like …..‘I know you don’t want to talk to me but feel you should know Molly has found herself stuck out front and is asking for you and panicking cos she can’t get back in’. ..maybe she would respond in some way..if only to come talk to Molly or take her back inside?

Tell Molly you’ve left a message for Cara and ask her if she’d like to listen to some soft music or watch TV. or have something to eat like you might do with a guest to your house? …just while you wait for Cara’s reply?