Therapy issues

Hi, I’m really not sure on something my therapist has done. I have been in therapy for about a year and a half but I have very little communication with Parts, I don’t know what all my Parts are. I have Parts that struggle toward end of session and seem to be child parts stuck in freeze response to point therapy sessions are running way over time as I can’t get out of it and leave. Last time we were I think from what I recall and what she has said 45 mins over and my therapist breached my boundaries whilst I was in freeze. She tried to take my hand to get me up, gave me no warning and didn’t ask. I recall so much fear, I recall saying please don’t touch me and pulled my hand away, it felt like something was happening again. I felt in fight/flight. At the same she was taking my elbow and a part said please don’t hurt me. My therapist reacted stopped, said no, said I accused her of hurting me and I had to leave now. I was shocked I was scared, I didn’t say that. I recall I said I didn’t accuse you. I said please don’t hurt me. I was crying trying to make it better then she said she was on other side of room, I had my head down , she was practically shouting at me telling me parts have consequences and I need to leave now. I froze again I was so scared. So session went way way over time. I went through different trauma responses and finally was able to leave in fight/flight. She ended my therapy as said it wasn’t working as we went so long over session time. Then she spoke to someone else and offered online. Had 2 sessions online she is being detached, the caring, empathetic, understanding therapist she was, she is no longer being. She is not demonstrating understanding or validation. I’ve tried to talk to her about what happened and says she knows Parts are doing it subconsciously but she has told me that all Parts are responsible for their actions and have consequences. I told her about one part who feels abandoned and another part who tried to step in that day. I have some communication after all this happened that day. But all she said was Parts have consequences. now after a couple sessions online she has said, only when I asked, that she has taken away the contact in between sessions that’s been there from the start and she won’t read emails I send in between sessions anymore. She said it’s because I violated boundaries going over session time and Parts have consequences. We are both responsible for boundaries around session time I feel and she breached my boundaries which caused part of the problem in the session but she had not mentioned this. It feels like she is punishing me and my Parts. Just cutting us off when we need her help, when I need her to talk with my Parts and be there for us to help us work through their trauma. I feel abandoned not just my Parts.
Sorry it’s so long, I feel very distressed. I have no other therapy options round me. I just don’t know if what she is saying is right about consequences or helpful. It feels like it’s totally breaking our therapeutic relationship.
I just feel like she is punishing us.

I think your therapist reacted badly.

A trauma therapist should know that sometimes, parts will get triggered and panic during therapy sessions. Getting angry at you for being triggered and scared is bad. It's not therapy. It's the opposite of therapy.