meowblaster8 wrote:They feel more of strong emotions and desires than they do full people, if that makes any sense.
It does. Some alters are not very elaborate identity-wise and they contain only one strong emotion or thought or memory etc. And because they are dissociated (disconnected) from the rest of the system, said emotion etc. becomes their whole universe, their whole self, and it's super intense. It gets easier when the system starts to reconnect (integrate).
meowblaster8 wrote:Sorry for being a sap.
Everybody has the right to being sap when needed!
meowblaster8 wrote:What they were and felt, felt so familiar. Like a version of me from the past. It's hard to explain, I don't know.
It makes sense. Every one of you is part of the same whole so of course you'll feel some familiarity when reconnecting with some alters/parts. Especially if there is a partial connection with them so they feel kinda you kinda not. The feeling is weird when we are used to feeling dissociated most of the time, though.
meowblaster8 wrote:It makes me feel weak and pathetic, I guess. [...] They were someone stronger than me, more capable and functional. [...] I could be better. And yet the thought of going dormant or fully disconnecting scares me.
You're not pathetic. And it's ok to feel weak and vulnerable especially when we carry a lot of hurt. Knowing where our vulnerabilities are is important in order to know how to protect ourselves. A bit like learning to carry a shield: you need to know what parts of your body it's supposed to protect or else the way you'll carry it might be ineffective.
It's always possible to be better. And you hit the nail on the head by saying you don't want to be dormant or disconnected. Because the solution is the opposite of that: the solution is to reconnect with the inner ressources of the system, becoming able to tap into the abilities of the other alters, share knowledge with each-other, etc. When we do that, every alter becomes fully functional because they have access to the whole of what the system can do. And that's super awesome. It's like learning a superpower.
meowblaster8 wrote:I'm very scared, I guess. [...] I'm trying not to think too much about this side of things, haha. It's on the backburner for a while, until I can get some personal life and safety things sorted out. I'm still kicking, certainly, just confused...
Of course it's confusing. We've all been there. Discorvering the system, lowering the dissociative walls, the weird familiarity feeling of things that are alien at the same time... It's super duper weird. Good idea to focus on getting the physical life and safety sorted out first. They are super important in order to offer a good environment to connect with the system and do inner system work. Having a stable and safe everyday life is top priority number one in the guidelines for the treatment of dissociative disorders by the ISSTD. (they're in the ressources list) So, congrats, you had the intuition of doing exactly what therapy guidelines advise to do! Wheeee!