Advice Needed: 'Littles' and growing up

UPDATE: Due to LS been upset that her 'big sister' (Teen S) had vanished, we will be releasing TS from the front integration tonight.

We didn't realise we could share skills without sharing trauma before attempting this so instead Kit is going to split again leaving 'driving skills fragment' at the front for us and Kate leaving 'cooking/cleaning and social skills fragment' at the front... (Hopefully this will help us organise ourselves better to be more productive as we're quite disorganised and not much gets done regarding sorting/decluttering!) These will then make up 'Levi' with 'Jay' and the fragment Bobby left.

TS has also just decided she will leave a fragment at the front but wants to be able to return inside too and then just re-blend with her fragment when she wants to front with Kate or LS.

This seems to allow us to make a smoother transition between alters than a 'sudden switch' and then all share the same skills (Thanks to ArbreMonde for that idea! ...had no idea we could do that!) when we do come out.

We've decided 'Total fusion' (ie down to 'one') is not for us, but we still want to work towards being able to be more efficient when we do want to work together to get stuff done!

LS wants us to stay living as 'her little family' without people disappearing ..she doesn't mind us coming outside 'to work' but as long as she can still visit or we go back in to visit her! She has clearly expressed that she wishes to remain 6! ..she wants Jody to stay 6 with her ..(Jody's a changeling so thats possible) and lil P to stay 4..or 5 (max..he's a changeling too too so a 'human age' will not affect his changeling abilities) she insists she still has to be his BIG sister!

and although she misses Bobby. ..(who is now preferring 'adult mode').. B. can actually age slide to any age they choose, so can go down to 10 to visit her inside for them just to have a play for 'old times sake' in the holodecks if they want to! ..or to play out here on the switch together 'as kids'...we will set aside Saturday or Sunday afternoons for them to spend time together.

Thanks for your advices

Levi

I tell you true, for us, there are no rules about that stuff. the inside is magic and it can work however you believe!!!!

we have some bees who grow....

Valor was seven. she became Aelen, 15.
Button was 1.5, she became Amethyst, 4.
lil b growed up and changed her mind and went back.
we merged for three days and unmerged.
many examples like this.

for us, if we picture inside really hard we can make it real on the inside. and everybody chooses for themselves how old they want to be and what their outfits are. and it's OK to grow up or not grow up...

lil b tell Susie growing up not so great if you like be little...

I don't think anyone gotta get big if they don't wanna. Um for us most of us get stuck small which is hard because we keep running out of adults (they all become toddlers) when they start thinking too much about kissing and stuff. If people can get small and get big I'm sure they can go between then so maybe Susie could become small again if she don't like it. I think all the adults go small because they don't wanna adult any more

Hi @BeccaBee3 and @PrimePossum

Sorry we completely missed that someone had answered after our last reply!

We're having a bit of stressful time with medical issues and other stuff bigs have to worry about (having enough money for bills and stuff) lately so Little Susie (LS) hasn't been out since last Thursday when a Nurse had to come.

I (host) got a few more things to sort out, hopefully we'll be in a better place by end of tomorrow and LS can come and visit at weekend to go see the ducks and chat with you guys.
She likes to be 6 and feels safer inside but likes to visit. I think she was more upset by others growing up and 'disappearing'.

They are still here really but time is different in our inside world so to her it feels like they disappeared for ages when they maybe only was at front for a couple of days or something.

We have issues with physical contact too @Prime Possum especially stuff like kissing as we are autistic and also have chronic fatigue we just tell outside people we are mostly bedbound and have to rest alot so they don't make too many social demands from us to be constantly interacting or going out with them all the time.

We save our energy for special time with our dog and close family.

Sue