Just want to chat with someone who understands.

I've been struggling a lot lately and want to speak to someone who just gets it. Everywhere I have looked, all I've found is cringe. I don't want to sound judgmental, but I feel that a lot of people have turned to have DID into some sort of trend and are treating it like a game. I can't find anyone to talk to who's laid back and chill about it, who takes it seriously and understands. I get that everyone's system is different but some of the things that I have been seeing are just cringy and disturbing on so many levels. Where are the real ones? I'm beginning to feel so alone and don't know where to go. Please, someone, reach out to me. This has been so depressing.

Hello and welcome.

While in this forum- text based, anonymous- the only thing a person can do is take another's story at face value- if a person says they have DID here, they have DID, full stop- I think I can understand what you're speaking of. Let me guess- Tik Tok, for starters? The internet is full of cringe.

I think here you'll find folks who are serious about what's going on and can genuinely sympathise with your system

Thanks, I just feel really lost about some things and don't feel comfortable talking to outsiders about it IRL. I don't even know what to do with myself at this point. I'm having a really hard time getting everyone to cooperate in the system. I'm worn out.

I am sorry that you've had a lot of struggles when it comes to your DID. I don't know anything about 'cringe' involving social media, if I'm honest. The five other systems we know of away from this forum have or are in the process of getting diagnosed.

Our system got diagnosed back at the beginning of January after almost a year of having to sort through all sorts of things involving our just trying to understand enough to discuss it with our T.

I do hope that we can help you here.

Take care,
Violette

I understand so much. A lot of people with dissociative disorders think they are "fake" if their symptoms are "not big enough" so they overplay their symptoms. Moreover, the focus is on the "identities" part of the symptoms and everything else is shoved under the rug. And Heaven forbids we talk about recovering from trauma!

Here we have a lot of ressources, especially academia (cf the ressources thread I linked in my signature coz I'm too lazy to fetch it every time) and we also understand that "mere" disorganized attachment in early childhood is enough to cause DID in adulthood. And that one can have DID or similar disorder without having a Pokedex full of detailed, completely separated alters.

So, welcome aboard! And welcome to our little book club of DID ressources

We have trouble with cooperation when we're ignoring or dismissing important needs of some parts that other parts don't see as important. It's a lesson we've had to learn over and over again--that trying to "power through" with chores or tasks that "have to" get done can result in hours of procrastination.

But when we grudgingly take a little time to do something for, for example, the younger parts (since it's usually their needs that are ignored), suddenly we can focus and complete "grownup" tasks. And as a bonus we usually feel better emotionally.

I'm not sure if this is at all related to your difficulties with cooperation, but I think it's a fairly common problem. Especially since many of us were emotionally neglected as children, and are experts at continuing to neglect our inner emotional needs.

i understand what you mean. i avoid certain websites for that reason. i have personally found good support/understanding and information in some FB groups. there always might be some things that are iffy to me, but there are more people who legitimately are struggling, looking for answers and support, etc. and not the more outlandish things you might see at times. if that was all i saw, i'd remove myself from those platforms fast.

i have been working for the last few years to understand my situation and have made a lot of progress. i don't share a lot outside of closed groups or with a few friends here and there because it's not something most can understand.

Hi i have not looked on tik tok and barely at all on youtube cause i got i guess sad when i heard therapists say people are faking it, and then they say such and such video and i think it would be better not to watch the video they are talking about lest i be less likely to be believed in the future i guess? idk. so i have been cautious. probably too much so.

but i would really like to know who to watch at some point cause i just started watching autism speakers on youtube and have learned so much about this disorder which I did not know. And thought it would be nice if there was someone i could also watch about DID too. But how do I find them? Cause this disorder to me feels so isolating and I always feel like a bit of the only person like this sometimes, though rationally i know that's not the case. All this to say, is I would too, but I don't know where.

I haven't been on facebook groups, but I do like the reddit group and have gone there some.

The neverland system what is on here wif a different name what I won't say so the doxin pepols don't find them makes YouTube stuf
https://youtube.com/@neverlandsystem?si ... p4EoBjs7Hq

They don't come here so much no more wich is sad but they are nice an they are real did pepols.