Not sure whats wrong with this board today!..It keeps telling me its unavailable then next time I refresh it works then next page it doesn't??? ..so hope this goes on!
Anyway...
We are still trying to work out a more stable way of fronting (at least appearing more stable to the outside world). Everyone who fronts finds it difficult to stay up front 24/7 due to the bodies issues - constant Tinnitus and the pain/fatigue levels. It's not fair to ask to expect ONE to endure that 24/7 whilst the others (due to the size of our inner world) have much more freedom and escape from it inside.
We have decided that to be consistent there should be one team that covers 'working hours mon-fri '...where we can't predict how safe it would be to allow some insiders out (the littles or ones that choose not to be known to the outside world) and when 'outside world' stuff gets dealt with bills, communication with business ..chemist, vet, GP etc. (not incl unplanned emergencies)
Co-hosting works well for us and as Kit prefers weekends and so does Bobby we decided I will continue to do work hours mon-fri but my co-host will change depending on who wants to come out to help for the day. ..except for when we go out for sunday dinner with family occasionally (then it will Kate and Yuna with someone else...maybe me or Sue)
That gives Sue opportunity to have a day or two off from taking care of the littles and to come out and do some cooking, art or read or just get an afternoon out etc. Sue tends to prefer the summer months she likes to sit in the garden and read or draw.
We have decided we will stick with no more than 3 being at the front at once (if coming out individually) so if Yuna or LS want to come out front with Kate (or Sue) then either Kit stays out and I go in for a break or Kit goes in for a break and I stay out front with them. ..if however they blend on the inside before coming to the front they count as one!
We have been working on the meditation alot to 'fine tune' the level of control we have over blends so alters can blend enough to be able to experience activities simultaneously but still keep seperate consciousness so can communicate with each other telepathically.
So far only Jay and some smaller past parts/fragments have fully integrated within me and are no longer a 'seperate alter'. I can remember their memories as if it was my memory but there's no emotion attached to them.
I think Sue would like to fully integrate but LS is still really attached to her and would become depressed if she was not inside with her so for now Sue and I do meditation sesssions so she can temporarily blend enough to transfer useful memories or skills to me then return inside to LS.
Kit, Jess and Bobby tend to flit about doing multiple jobs either internally or as Gatekeeper at the front.
LS seems happier on the inside she described the outside as 'frustrating and lonely' cos she can't do anything independantly in the body but she doesn't seem to want to age up either to see if it would be easier for her to host/control the body as an older alter. Inside she can run and play and do anything in the inner world and has a family and best friend so she wishes to remain inside with them. She keeps telling us she wants to be a Tulpa like her inside family.
Bobby says if thats what she wants ..let her, she seems to be going through sone kind of phase but may change her mind eventually.
We're not yet past peri stage so still get the emotional mood swings (though no where near as severe) when TOTM is due though there's no actual period, these swings of emotion could be affecting her...Yuna and Sue still experience feelings of depression during these fluctuations, though not as severely....so it is 'easing off' and they've been less severe and less frequent.
With only 2 more months to go to achieve 'official menopause ' we don't want to risk triggering them coming back so daren't risk taking any extra estrogen/progesterone to see if it relieved symptoms further. ..but the goalposts are in sight!....just have to hope no-one moves them before we get to them now!
Lily